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  2. how do you introduce sex toys

    in Marriage and Committed Relationships

    Posted

    You can start off slow, like with lubes or clit enhancers. Flavored blow job lotions, or even something like a massage candle (the wax melts and is a massage lotion). Shopping for those on here (of course) can lead to bigger things, curiosity may build up. You may start the shopping expedition with something like "I want to look for something to add a little spice/fun/different in our lovemaking".

    My ex husband wasn't into sex toys at first either, and, by the end of our marriage (which had nothing to do with sex toys), he had his own stash of toys, including anal playing toys! His philosophy, at first, was that "if he pleased me well enough, I shouldn't NEED sex toys". Well, most people don't NEED sex toys, however, sex toys are NOT to replace anyone, or replace a lover, but to enhance the sexual experience. And, with a lot of reassurance, and slowly getting him interested (at first, I introduced non-phallic looking toys so as not to intimidate or make him feel like he was being replaced), and discussion. He even took me to a sex toy shop a few times, to sincerely shop!!!! It was an amazing turn around. So, it can happen.

  3. Foursome

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

    Posted

    Even though LindaP's is an older post, it's probably something that more than just her has experienced. It sounds like she had come to something that was a NO on her list of something that she was willing to do in a 3-some/4-some. And, you know what? That's FINE! Everyone has their limits, and things that they may find they're uncomfortable in doing.

    In these situations, NOBODY should get pissed off at someone's "No List". All involved need to be respectful to everyone's wishes, safe words, and willingness/lack of. Especially if they want it to happen again. I'd be willing to bet that, if she knew they were really mad at her, she was probably less willing/comfortable to do so again.

  6. Would You Ever.......

    in Everything Else

    Posted

    4 hours ago, WenWitch said:

    I'm subconscious as it is using the public restrooms for a nature's call as it is, so that would be a no. lolol

    Would you ever stray off the beaten path into a more wooded area of a national park (or any large wooded park) to get naughty with your SO?

    BTDT!!! More than once even!!!!

  7. Penis Size

    in Oral Sex Discussion

    Posted

    Remember, when they say "average size", they mean that they take a variety of measurements, and add all of them, then divide the equation. It's not like they compare each and every one.

    An average male penis erect is about 6". That being said, I've only had one lover with a 6" penis. I had a couple with shorter, and the rest were bigger. It really depends on the man, how big it is. It all boils down to genetics.

  8. Tom of Finland Pleasure Tool

    in Sex Toy Reviews

    Posted

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    Time to put the hammer down....way down......down there!!!!

    I saw this toy and just HAD to have it!!! When it arrived, I was so excited, I pried open the box as soon as I got it home!

    First, a heads up: Tom of Finland is a foundation that was founded for the protection, preservation, and promotion of mostly homoerotic art. So, the box is printed with a variety hyper masculine men, all engaging in a variety of manner of sex acts. Although, the very front of the box is almost innocent enough, with 2 buff officers gracing it. The box is decorated in black and silver, so it's very flashy. Once you turn it over and then open it, that's when the full variety of all men graces it's surfaces. It even comes with a small collectible print of an officer getting a bj from an upside down head. I say this not because I was grossed out, but because some people may be offended or shocked by the prints all over the box. So, if you don't like gay art or the homosexual lifestyles at all, the toy's packaging may be a negative for you. I wasn't bothered, so this wasn't an issue for me at all. So, hammer-heads up, because here comes the GREAT parts of this item!!!

    Taking the toy out of the package, I just loved the satiny smooth feel of the whole tool. The large handle is a hard satiny-feeling plastic, with 2 buttons on it. One controls the power, and the other one adjusts the settings. Over the buttons, there are 12 lights that show what level the vibes are set at. It has 2 attachments: one is the very realistic hammer top, which is 5.5" in width. It makes the whole toy 11.75" long. The other is one has ridges on it, and that makes it look like a cop's night stick, which is 6" insertable length, and is almost 2" in width. It makes the complete length of the toy at a little over 15" long! Both heads are silicone, so be careful about the lubes you choose to play with with this toy. I'd also recommend that you store it in the original plastic packaging, to protect both the heads and the stick/handle.

    Though geared more towards men, even being female, I just loved the whole idea of this toy. It's whimsical novelty, I loved how realistic this toy looks, whether it's the hammer or the nightstick, and is a realistic size for either one, and could even leave it out in your bedroom, and, unless someone either had one already, or took a good look at it, they'd think it was either the tool or the weapon!

    To get the heads on, you should have dry hands, and twisting them off the silicone part of the attachment head and on is the easiest way to do so. At first, I was worried, because the hammer was on the toy to begin with, and it was on there tightly. But with a tug and a twist, POP, it came off, and the club part twisted on easily.

    This toy is water resistant, and when I was unscrewing the base to see how the batteries went in, I was impressed with the rubber gasket to keep the water out. There is a removable sleeve that you put the 4 AA batteries in and then slide it back in. It's very simple and tells you which way to put the batteries, and the compartment is fitted, so you can only put it in the correct way. Nailed it!

    With the size of the toy, you'd think that the small batteries wouldn't be able to do the job, but, oh yes, it actually adds a BANG to this hammer!

    We decided to play with it the night we got it, so it was hammer time!!!! We both liked the 3rd setting, which was the highest steady setting. We both used the hammer head first. The vibes were very strong, which we both loved. We rubbed it over our nipples and chest, and it felt really good!! I love strong, direct clit stimulation. The claw, which is the 2 prong part, offers a couple of options for stimulation. One, you can use one of the tips to put some direct stimulation on the clit. That felt awesome, and pried a few orgasm from my girlfriend. The claw can also be used to provide stimulation around the clit or lips. Sliding it around her clit, my girlfriend gently yanked and yanked her clit area, and had a very strong orgasm that way as well. I used the claws on me, and I liked it, got a couple of orgasms from that, then I decided to flip it over and put the face (flat part) on my clit. The face's circumference was extremely covering, and stimulated all of the right places, and I was hammering out a very, very powerful, pounding orgasm! OMG!! I felt as though my head was about to explode!

    After a break, it was time for the insertable part of the investigation. I was a very bad, bad girl, and I needed a good stick, to put me in my place. Yes officer, I'm a naughty girl! I like to have a full feeling, so we used the club part on me. After the pounding I got from the hammer, I was soaked, and so the club part went in easily. It felt GREAT! The ribs on the club were just enough to stimulate, and not irritate. I still felt the vibes inside as well, and I was enjoying my "beating" immensely! I was surrendering to the orgasms easily. Afterwards, I felt pounded and subdued successfully, however, I promise that I will be needing an adjustment, pounding, and subduing again very soon.

    There were a couple of drawbacks to this toy. It is a bit loud. Not so much that it gets in the way of using it, but it's still kind of loud. On a scale of 1-5, with 5 being the loudest, I'd give it a 3-3.5. The other is the handle. It is pretty wide. So, sometimes hanging on to it can be tricky for smaller hands. But, we made do, and do we did!!! LOL

    Due to the size of this toy, I'd say that it may be a better fit for someone that has some sex toy experience.

    All in all, this toy gets my highest Tyger rating of a full arched back, 4 paws waaaaay up, poofed out tail, and a satisfied growling puuuuurrrr!!!!

    Nail this toy down! Hammer out your order!

     

     

  9. toys

    in General Sex Toy Discussion

    Posted

    Searching for sex toys that will work with your (or your SO's) particular tastes can be very tricky!

    Knowing a few things about materials is helpful. For example, jelly is very popular, however, it's very high maintenance, you have to clean it really well, it does have an odor to it that doesn't usually go away, it's porous, so it can hold bacteria in, and, it can rip/tear. It's not very sturdy.

    Silicone (smooth) is one of most of our favorites because of its versatility. You can boil it, it's non-porous, it's antibacterial, and it's usually medical-grade, so it's sturdy and very easy to care for. However, you can only use water-based lubes with silicone based toys. They're firm, yet have some give to them, so it's a great material for many shapes and sizes.

    Glass is another favorite of many of ours. The glass that they use to make sex toys with is the same type of glass that is used for a very popular bakeware, so it's sturdy, as well as pretty. You can boil, freeze, and even put glass toys in the dishwasher. They're obviously non-porous, so they don't hold bacteria, and they're firm, so you know that you can get the pressure you want with it. They make great g-spot glass sex toys!

    Cyberskin/Realskin is actually a silicone based material that is designed to feel like real human skin. This particular material is very soft, and can be porous. Both types of silicone toys do require a bit more care. I always keep my cyberskin toys in their original boxes to protect them. If you throw them in a drawer with other toys, it can actually damage the cyberskin, causing it to "melt".

    Hard plastic (TPR) toys are easy to care for as well.

    Then you also have wood and metal toys.

    All of these come in various shapes, sizes, colors, and functions (vibes, no vibes, etc).

    Now, all that being said, you have so many choices, it's very hard to choose when you're starting out your collection of pleasure toys! This is where it gets interesting. You will find over time, that some items that you thought you or your lover would like, you don't. Things that you love may be replaced with items that work EVEN better! It's a fun experiment, but well worth the time and effort to go thru!

    Simple questions to ask are:

    If you're looking for something that is phallic in nature, what size is my/my lover's cock now? Do I/they like that size? Would bigger/smaller be better?

    Do I want something that looks realistic or more toy-like?

    What color do I like? Believe it or not, this can make a difference!

    How much care do I want to exude with this toy? Do I want to think about how to clean it, lubes to use, or just use and go?

    Where will I be storing my adult play things?

    How much am I willing to spend?

    What's the area I'm looking to stimulate? I always recommend that women get a clit stimulator!! Whether it's a bullet, or a pocket rocket, the first toy, in my opinion, should be one of those!!! For women, it's usually about clit stimulation!!

    Waterproof or does it matter?

    The main thing I can recommend is that you peruse the site after you narrow it down a bit. Check out some of the toy favorites, and read their reviews. Our reviewers really try and help all of our customers find the right toy for them, by giving honest reviews. Trust me, I have "failed" many toys in reviews (some they no longer carry). Most of us give detailed accounts of our experiences with the toys, so you know how we used it, where, and how we liked it.

    If you have questions on a specific toy, or give a bit more details, we can help you narrow down the search. Is the rabbit the only thing you've tried? Talk to your wife. She has to be honest about what she's looking for, and see what she may want to try.

    My ex husband wasn't into sex toys for a long time. But, after years of me being on here, and trying out new things, he actually wanted to try anal sex, with toys, and had a lot of fun experimenting! So, you never know until you try/talk to each other!!!

     

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  11. Bj Iafter 'unpleasant Conditions"

    in Oral Sex Discussion

    Posted

    I think anyone that's sexually active has had this happen. And, unfortunately, as we get older, our bodies develop more digestive issues sometimes. So, this is not a real rare occurance.

    Where some people get grossed out about it, to me, and this is just my opinion, they need to get over it. Apologize, excuse yourself, and move on! I mean, not only will women fart, but there's a thing called a "queef", which is when air is pushed up into the vaginal area, and it comes out, especially when the penis comes out, and it sounds like a juicy "fart", but it's not. Again, totally normal, and not gross, just a bodily noise.

    It can be laughed off. And, really, just should be. You can't help your health issues, I'm sure he knows about your resection, and needs to get over the "eeeewww groooooosssss" child like attitude. LOL I'm sure he's belched after drinking soda or beer, farted after a meal ( like baked beans), so, with all of that pressure and pushing on your innards, why would he think that that's gross? It's natural.

    The older I get, the less tolerant I get for intolerance/sympathy with people with health conditions.

  16. Plus Size Strap On

    in Sex Toy Reviews

    Posted

    I would love to report that, after many, many nights of usages, this harness is still holding up very well, no wear or tear, no cracks or rips. It's good, still sturdy, and it is still awesome!! This is a great investment for those that want a great strap-on harness. Well worth it!

  17. Tantus Acute

    in Sex Toy Reviews

    Posted

    I missed this before, but, yes, you can use this in the tub or shower, especially since it's just a dildo, no mechanics or batteries to worry about. This toy is still one of my GF's preferred dildos due to its small size.

  18. Adding Pics to Reviews

    in Sex Toy Reviews

    Posted

    So, I took the time to figure this out.

    After you're done writing your review, you always add the link. So, either before or after you add the link, go to the image on the shopping page, right mouse click on the picture of the item. Click on Copy Image Location. Go back to the review you're working on in the forum, go to the bottom right corner that says Insert Other Media, click on it, Insert Image URL, paste the image location, and click Insert Into Post.

    You can go and add your pictures in your reviews that you've already written as well. Just click on Edit, and follow the rest of these instructions.

  23. Pleasing Her Orally

    in Oral Sex Discussion

    Posted

    Deborah is right. The more you try and concentrate on giving her a g-spot orgasm, the mostly likely it will fail because you're both concentrating too hard on it.

    Some people can use their fingers to hit the g-spot, others use toys. I squirted for the first time with a bullet on my clit, and my Blue Swirl glass dildo. Totally not on purpose! LOL Fingers never could do it for me. Mikayla wrote a great article about the g-spot, and it's on the shopping page under articles. Go check it out. It's a great, informative article.

    As far as her drying out, that could be many reasons. Most likely, if she's your age, dehydration. You both need to make sure you're both drinking a lot of water, regardless of sexual exploits or not. But water will hydrate you and her, and help keep her wet. And, there's nothing wrong with using personal lubricants if she needs to. Sex should never be painful, so ensuring she's lubed up well before having intercourse will help relax her more.

    She could be drying out because she's concentrating too much on trying to g-spot orgasm as well, which, sex shouldn't be over-thought, just enjoyed. If it happens, it happens.

    If she's on any sort of medication, even if it's just for headaches, and not drinking enough water, she can also be too dry.

    I hope this helps!!

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  25. Penis Size

    in Oral Sex Discussion

    Posted

    Usually, those kinds of attitude of bragging that they "tore her up" etc, come from the younger men that are still of the boy mentality. They want quantity over quality. Some guys get it pretty fast, others take a while, that there's a difference between fucking and being a lover.

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