[Painful Sex]

Please do not take offense at this, but had you ever had intercourse prior to that first attempt back in November? This sounds amazingly like my first few attempts at sex with my then boyfriend way back when (now my DH for 21+ years). If he got more than an inch in it was incredibly painful. I had never had sex prior to him so there was no stretching of the vaginal muscles. It took us probably 2-3 months of trying almost every weekend before I could comfortably have sex. Intercourse can and will be painful until the vagina has stretched to accomodate something the size of a penis. This may not happen for a while. Also with the time apart between visits you're not able to continue the trying and therefore the muscle retreats back to its prior size. The dildo can help with this but even with that, you must make sure you are well lubricated and go SLOW. This won't happen overnight. First and foremost though, please take the true experts advice and see your medical doctor to rule out any underlying causes. Good luck to you.

Thanks for the reply. I just got back from spending a month with him and after about a week of painful trying every day...something finally just clicked and I relaxed and ever since then it was okay for me. Still if he tries to soon it may hurt for a split second, but then everything is fine. Im so glad I can stop stressing about it!

[Spit Or Swallow]

The first time I did it, it wasnt planned or anything. So I just kind of went for it, and in the middle he asked if I wanted to be warned so I said yes(stoppping of course..I'm sure it was a mood killer ) and said yeah...but he kind of forgot to warn me, lol. I figured he was about to cum though, because I could feel it working its way up, and before I knew it, it was in my mouth, so I just swallowed. I've only ever done it once since then (this all only happend a couple weeks ago) and he warned me, but I swallowed again. The taste isnt horrible, and I'm sure he likes it that I swallow. My only issue is that it feels like it coats my throat and stays there until I drink soda or something. I never thought I'd like giving BJs, but it's great, because he's so quiet with other things, and he actually will moan with a BJ. Kinda getting off topic now lol

[Painful Sex]

Why haven't you talked to your doctor about this? Have a medical checkup. And tell the doctor what you have told us. If there is something wrong, he will find it, and can help you. What you are descibing is not normal.

Because I hate doctors and I'm trying to find help myself. I'll go to one if nothing works, but for now I'd like some suggestions, I cant be the only one who has experienced painful intercourse.

[Painful Sex]

Back in November I flew to see my boyfriend (I'm 20, he's 21) and after 3 years of saying we were going to wait for marriage, we decided to go ahead and have sex. It was a very painful experience, so painful I could only let him put the head of his penis in because it hurt so bad. We have since done it probably 6 more times, and each time is as painful as the last. We do foreplay, and I feel as though I'm aroused, but whenever he starts to enter, it brings a burning sensation and once he is fully in(or at least I think he is, it hurts so bad I'm focused on the pain really), it just feels like he's scraping against the inside with every move he makes. It's very uncomfortable and it's really starting to bother me because I don't know what's wrong with me.

I thought it might be a lubrication issue, but I went and bought a dildo(he lives in England, I live in America, so its not like we can practice a lot), and used some ky as a lubrication to see if I could use that without the pain. Even with that it burns and has a horrible painful feeling so I cant even force myself to put an inch of it inside of me.

Has anyone else experienced this, or does anyone know how to help? I'm so frustrated :-\