I'm brand new to here and don't have anyone else to talk to about this, so I would appreciate your advice on this.
My husband and I are high school sweethearts that married after graduating college. After 10 years and 2 kids, I thought our sex life would be better than this.
When we have sex, my husband is a starfish. He just lays there receiving. The few times he touches me, when he does, he goes straight to my nipples and vagina. As a result, I'm so turned off that I'm dry, which makes sex both painful and unappetizing. What's worst, is that it doesn't matter if I'm tired (this is most of the time) or sick (usually with a migraine) or in physical pain (I have chronic issues with my right knee, ankle and foot). I must come to bed naked, which 90% of the time leads to sex. By sex, I'm mean he gets a 1 hour blowjob (because he doesn't like being touched anywhere else) that leads to an orgasm while I get unwanted fondling and penetration that makes feel like just a collection of body parts. If I orgasm, it's completely fake.
Communicating with him about this in the past has either ended in us arguing or him trying for 2 weeks and giving up. Regardless, things always go back to how they were and I've simply given up. We're in our upper 30s now, so medical issues have started to arise but these were problems before that. Did I teach him wrong in our early years?
