Lusha120

Let me start off by saying that i have a very strong relationship with my husband. We have been together for 7 years and have 4 children the youngest being a year. Life is stressfull. for a while sex became nonexistent. now we have sex about 3 times a week. It has just gotten very routine. Don't get me wrong, it is good sex, just nothing to write home about. I am way into oral (giving and recieving) he used to be too, but now he is only into recieving it. when we first got together I talked him into toys and enjoying sex, even now that has gotten booring. I just spent a ton and replaced all our things because it was time, and i added in a few new ones. (I have never been able to orgasm on my own....ie with out a partner) I bought one of them thrusting vibes to try. he is offended. It is ok for him to masturbate and get off on his own, but i cant (i mean that i litterally can't) I mean DAMN! I realize htat some of that is a psycological thing... after 4 kids in 5 years i have some problems with self image and my new body. But what can i do to spice things up a bit with out offending him again. I just need a sounding board with good logical advice. Talking to him is on the list... he grew up in a devout catholic home and NEVER even saw his parents kiss, so this is hard for him to discuss openly. what to do?????? T

ok, i was VERY promiscuious in my youth .... oh boy, the beginning.... 3d row of a smashingpumpkins concert...got backstage passes....one time in the road (don't try it: ASS fault! if you know what i mean) @15 my mom was driving us home from a concert and there was some heavy petting in the backseat if htat one counts why she didn't beat me i don't know. int he front seat of a car parked in then BF driveway, his parents were home... a few times in my studio apt, while friends were there, in the pool at my moms house middle of afternoon, she was home, parking lot @ work during buisness hours... gave now hubby road head, got really really lost and almost wrecked the car.......... thank you mikayka, i feel so much less alone on that! after reading yours, i had to share mine. I was sooooo naughty. I'm going to have to start that again!!!!

I've been where you are. You want to know what my husband (of 7 years and 4 kids now) had said to me "I'm really glad we didn't have sex the first night we met, i'ts the difference between girlfriend and wife material". It really does make most men think of you differently. i'm not saying that it is fair but if you want long term commitment, take your time to get it right the first time. Silly as it sounds.... but why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?? would you want to marry someone just because the sex was good or would you prefer to marry someone who was a good person? How will you ever get the chance for the latter if you don't get to know someone first? sex does not make a good relationship~ a good relationship makes for great sex.

funny thing: Hubby and i met while I was dating a girl (and sleeping with her). thats what he loved about me, he loved that about her too! now since we are married and kids, it's a no go for him, bummer for me. I wish he'd loosen up about that again. you'd thing that most guys would be jumping at the chances....but not mine... sigh....

NO! not a problem at all! count yourself as blessed. best sex of my life was with a man who had some curvature!

Simply put, you are asking the wrong question. It is not and AGE question, there is no magical number (except age of legal consent) to say that you are ready for sex. The question to ask yourself is am i ready for the concequences? If you are asking the question, you are probably not ready. You will know when the time is right for you, at that piont in your life, it won't be a question. shaving is not a necessity for anything, except maybe a bikini. You will learn over time what is right for you and your partner. I know that many men like it trimmed, many like a hedge, and many not at all. (that gave away alot didn't it!!!) if you do choose to shave, invest in a good personal trimmer and a large mirror.