Thanks howard for you input, I gues what i needed is for someone to tell me straight. Alot of the things you have said, we have done, or do. Being that my wife and I are both young, and sheltered, we are still learning. I strive to please my spouse. Being that I am deployed it hard for us to try these things now. I'm sorry for coming off as insecure, and hope that I did not affend anyone. Want2Know I also thank you for you advice as well. I will mention what you said to her. As I said earlier I am deployed, is the picking of a toy something that would be easier when I get home?