scrumpy

We have been married for fifteen years( both are in our early forties).Two years ago my dear wife underwent a complete hysterectomy due to a large growth in her uterus. At that time she chose to have her ovaries removed as well because of a family history of cervical cancer and not wanting to have to go through it all again. It made sense to me too at the time.(There was only a matter of a couple of days to make the decision prior to the surger and to be honest any information available pointed to this route)However in the last two years our sex life has been seriously affected. It has become almost a case of her just wanting to get it over with as quickly as possible and then going to sleep. Myself on the other hand seems to be the one out gathering information (courtesy of the internet and places of open discussion such as this) to try and revive the fun/spark in the bedroom. We've been shopping (toys, costumes, lingerie) but to be honest most of the items haven't seen the light of day since coming home. I know she feels bad about the situation too ( she tells me so) but she doesn't seem to really want to try. (I guess thats the most frustrating Part). I know there is no miracle cure at the moment for ladies with a loss of sexual desire, but I was hoping that maybe there are some women that may have worked through this and are willing to share their thoughts. Truthully my end goal is to point her towards this forum, so that maybe she can find answers for herself without any pressures from me.