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Also, just to clear something up... I really don't think he has any hesitations about sex. He seems to have a great relationship with his parents about the whole subject. He really loves sex and pleasuring me too... its just hard for him to stay hard and climax. So any advice would be great!

Hey guys, i need help! I just started "seeing" a guy recently and we've had sex twice so far. The thing is, each time, he never gets to climax! Even though we go at it constantly for over 2hours! I feel bad I end up with a few orgasms and he never gets his! We've been talking about this and he has been with a few girls, and has only come ONCE while having sex and never with oral or handjobs. The only way he can cum is by jacking himself off... (I've seen this a few times when I watch him on his webcam ) But even then, it takes at least an hour and a half! Also, during sex or foreplay he gets soft sometimes... He says he gets nervous, or frustrated, and can't stop thinking about whether he's good or if he's going to come. I always reassure him he is GREAT and i am definitely being pleasured! I don't want to pressure him to orgasm because I know that makes it harder, but do you guys have any advice in how he can stay hard and finally climax?? I want our experiences together to be good ones! I was thinking about getting a cockring for him to eventually try...but I hear you shouldn't keep them on for over 20minutes and I know he would take longer than that... HELP!

WOW, valerie, i DEFINITELY know what you're talking about when you say you can still feel it! My guy just used it on me tonight, and MAN, my clit is STILL tingling!!! This thing sure does pack some amazing punch!!! My only complaint is when turning it off I kept switching it to 'open' and the battery would fall out... not the best thing to keep happening while you're in the middle of playing. I havent used it in water yet...i'm afraid it will pop open and get water inside and brake! we'll see how it goes....

I just picked up my package from the porch and eagerly ripped it open like a kid on christmas! but alas! the one toy i was MOST excited about, the Ultimate Pearl Beaded Rabbit Vibrator in purple, was not in there! It was listed on my order information on the paper they sent in the box. I called the office just now but it is closed...so i left a message. Has anyone else had this happen to them? Or could it be out of stock?

I totally agree with everyone 100% so I am not going to waste my time repeating them. But I will make another suggestion, maybe in the meantime, while you're working on self-esteem, weight, etc., and you want a quick-fix, you can try wearing a sexy negligee (short nightgown) and a hott pushup bra (with no panties) so you can RIDE HIM HARD COWGIRL!! (and not be worried about whats jiggling about because it will be covered in a sexy way Now I'm not saying you ladies need to cover up what your mama gave you, but on days where I feel bloated, dressing up totally works for me!! I don't know of a guy who doesn't like a lady in sexy lingerie! Goodluck!

oh and definitely the back of my neck... oh my word, that is the best.

my neck...*sigh*...is definitely my weak spot...

hmm...i've got one in the mail! i really hope it works...especially in the tub

Thank you for the welcome mikayla! I've been reading alot of your posts, toy reviews, and articles...and boy, do you know your stuff!! Yes, I would have to say I am definitely the one who initiates sex more. He had only been with one girl before me, but I still have to say I am more knowledgeable. He was the one who actually suggested we get a vibrator in the first place (but don't think it wasn't already part of my fantasies!) but I don't think he actually thought I would agree (or be eager about it, for that matter). I don't think he's intimidated by my sexuality. He seems more nervous. I can tell he's afraid I'm going to become some "nympho" (which is not what I think loving sex means!!!) and either our relationship will become purely physical or i will start cheating on him if he cannot satisfy my needs (which i keep having to remind him that i would never let either of those things happen). And about the ADD meds, just last night I brought up the possibility of his Aderall decreasing his sex drive and I explained how I did some research online and found out that was one of the side effects. He told me he had never even considered that to be a factor, (he has been on the medication since 6th grade) but now admitted it could definitely be a reason. I think we may do some more research on the subject and he may either stop the medication completely, or switch to another, depending on doctor's advice. Hopefully we will get it straightened out. Thank you mikayla and everyone for your help! And eventhough the meds might be the main reason for his lack of "enthusiasm" i am still DEFINITELY going to use your guys' sexy suggestions to "get him in the mood" Thanks!

Last night while fooling around with my guy he yet again bluntly proposed the possibility of anal sex that night. I was a little speechless... I'm not sure how I feel about it yet, so I told him I don't think I was ready for it. I just want to be able to enjoy it when the time comes. I've read the articles on this site, but they still don't seem to answer my questions. I've tried to relax and play around down there when I'm by myself (while playing with my clit and pussy at the same time), but the sensation of anything inside my butt makes me instantly turned-off. Are there any techniques to enjoy it before I actually try anything with my boyfriend? (and i'm not doing it just to please him, i am curious myself) Also, I've seen people ask time and time again about the pain factor, not during anal sex, but afterward. Even if you have all the lube in the world, isn't it inevitable to hurt after anal sex for someone who isn't experienced? Or is there something I'm missing? Advice Please!!

thank you for bringing the possibility of medication side affects to my attention, i would have never even considered it! he takes adderall and i have been looking online and it does mention a chance of a decrease in sex drive! i will talk to him about it as soon as i get the chance. thank you!

he still goes to a doctor to evaluate if he should still take it and they keep refilling his prescription. and i definitely notice a difference when he takes it. the days he doesn't he is completely distracted and moody.

yay, i'm glad many of you feel the same way! i hope the site does it!

Thank you everybody for your wonderful ideas and input! It has made me feel a lot better and has given me many new ideas!! He has been out of town for a few days and is coming back tomorrow (i miss him! but it's cute he has been calling me at least 5 times a day, lol). I think the best thing would to have a talk with him, away from the bedroom. But I am going to wait a little bit because I already know i'm not going to worry about not having sex often enough this week after he gets back (we're both dying to be with eachother) and i have some more toys coming at the end of the week so that will keep us busy . So once (or if) it starts up again in the next few weeks, i'll have a talk with him about it. Then I'm going to try some more seductive measures (i have already been buying sexy lingere, and trying the no-panties tactic, but i'll keep trying new things). Thank you and i'll keep you posted on the progress! howard: He's in good physical condition (not buff, or skinny, or fat...but average i suppose). And he IS taking medication for ADD (attention deficit disorder) i never really thought it could affect his sex drive...does anyone know if it can? He doesn't exercise regularly, but he does have a pretty physically demanding job at a sporting goods store where he lifts things. And i know on some days he's not in the mood because he's tired (but its not all the time). His family knows we're sleeping together and is ok with it, as long as its not under their roof. I don't think he is worried about not being a "man" in the bedroom. I know he enjoys playing with me but sometimes he feels it takes a lot of energy for me to get off (whenever we're together, he wants to make sure i go at least once, if not multiple times). Now that I think about it more and more, i am starting to think it is his lack of energy keeping him from performing regularly. He works full time and before summer came he was in school full time too. Hmm... I suppose I'll get through this week and see how his energy levels do.

allit: tootimid.com sells the SAME vibrator for $19.95 (marked down from $29.95). And it comes in purple or hot pink! I actually just purchased the purple one today! here's the link: http://shop.tootimid.com/index.asp?PageAct...ROD&ProdID=4815