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  1. The Guy Can't Orgasm?

    in Everything Else

    Posted

    Also, just to clear something up... I really don't think he has any hesitations about sex. He seems to have a great relationship with his parents about the whole subject. He really loves sex and pleasuring me too... its just hard for him to stay hard and climax. So any advice would be great!

  2. The Guy Can't Orgasm?

    in Everything Else

    Posted

    Hey guys, i need help! I just started "seeing" a guy recently and we've had sex twice so far. The thing is, each time, he never gets to climax! Even though we go at it constantly for over 2hours! I feel bad I end up with a few orgasms and he never gets his!

    We've been talking about this and he has been with a few girls, and has only come ONCE while having sex and never with oral or handjobs. The only way he can cum is by jacking himself off... (I've seen this a few times when I watch him on his webcam ;) ) But even then, it takes at least an hour and a half!

    Also, during sex or foreplay he gets soft sometimes... He says he gets nervous, or frustrated, and can't stop thinking about whether he's good or if he's going to come. I always reassure him he is GREAT and i am definitely being pleasured!

    I don't want to pressure him to orgasm because I know that makes it harder, but do you guys have any advice in how he can stay hard and finally climax?? I want our experiences together to be good ones!

    I was thinking about getting a cockring for him to eventually try...but I hear you shouldn't keep them on for over 20minutes and I know he would take longer than that... HELP!

  3. The Little Toy That Keeps On Giving.

    in Sex Toy Reviews

    Posted

    I CAN STILL FEEL IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :huh:

    :D WOW, valerie, i DEFINITELY know what you're talking about when you say you can still feel it! My guy just used it on me tonight, and MAN, my clit is STILL tingling!!! This thing sure does pack some amazing punch!!! My only complaint is when turning it off I kept switching it to 'open' and the battery would fall out... :( not the best thing to keep happening while you're in the middle of playing. I havent used it in water yet...i'm afraid it will pop open and get water inside and brake! we'll see how it goes.... :unsure:

  4. Where Is It?

    in General Sex Toy Discussion

    Posted

    I just picked up my package from the porch and eagerly ripped it open like a kid on christmas! but alas! the one toy i was MOST excited about, the Ultimate Pearl Beaded Rabbit Vibrator in purple, was not in there! :o It was listed on my order information on the paper they sent in the box. I called the office just now but it is closed...so i left a message. Has anyone else had this happen to them? Or could it be out of stock? :(

  5. To Big For The Top

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

    Posted

    I totally agree with everyone 100% so I am not going to waste my time repeating them. But I will make another suggestion, maybe in the meantime, while you're working on self-esteem, weight, etc., and you want a quick-fix, you can try wearing a sexy negligee (short nightgown) and a hott pushup bra (with no panties) so you can RIDE HIM HARD COWGIRL!! (and not be worried about whats jiggling about because it will be covered in a sexy way ;) Now I'm not saying you ladies need to cover up what your mama gave you, but on days where I feel bloated, dressing up totally works for me!! I don't know of a guy who doesn't like a lady in sexy lingerie! Goodluck! :)

  9. Too Horny?

    in Dating and Relationships

    Posted

    Hi there Amethyst - Welcome to TooTimid - I am sorry I wasn't here to welcome you in proper!

    Anyway, I have read all the wonderful advice and agree with all of it. As you will see from being here on TooTimid people start to get familiar with each other and each other's advice and start to quote each other - it is a wonderful thing.

    I have only one thing to add / ask about. Would you say that you are the one who initiates the sex more, seems more knowlegable (even though you WERE a virgin)? You want to use sex toys - was this new to him when you guys got together?

    The reason I ask is this, when I met my hubby, he had sex with others before me, but I was WAY out of his league. Iam EXTREMELY sexual - I want it all the time. I love my toys. I love oral sex. I love to fool around in public, I couldn't get enough of him. It took all of a week for him to realize that "hey, this girl is WAY more advanced than I." Do you think that your bf is intimidated by you sexually?

    Cause besides the ADD drugs, which will affect sex drive, he is at his sexual prime, he should have a boner 24/7 if he is attracted to you (which I am sure he is) so he just may be afraid he can't keep up. When men worry, they can't perform well.

    That is my only thought other than what has been mentioned already! Good luck!

    Mikayla

    Thank you for the welcome mikayla! I've been reading alot of your posts, toy reviews, and articles...and boy, do you know your stuff!!

    Yes, I would have to say I am definitely the one who initiates sex more. He had only been with one girl before me, but I still have to say I am more knowledgeable. He was the one who actually suggested we get a vibrator in the first place (but don't think it wasn't already part of my fantasies!) but I don't think he actually thought I would agree (or be eager about it, for that matter).

    I don't think he's intimidated by my sexuality. He seems more nervous. I can tell he's afraid I'm going to become some "nympho" (which is not what I think loving sex means!!!) and either our relationship will become purely physical or i will start cheating on him if he cannot satisfy my needs (which i keep having to remind him that i would never let either of those things happen).

    And about the ADD meds, just last night I brought up the possibility of his Aderall decreasing his sex drive and I explained how I did some research online and found out that was one of the side effects. He told me he had never even considered that to be a factor, (he has been on the medication since 6th grade) but now admitted it could definitely be a reason. I think we may do some more research on the subject and he may either stop the medication completely, or switch to another, depending on doctor's advice. Hopefully we will get it straightened out.

    Thank you mikayla and everyone for your help! And eventhough the meds might be the main reason for his lack of "enthusiasm" i am still DEFINITELY going to use your guys' sexy suggestions to "get him in the mood" ;) Thanks!

  10. "we Could Always Try Anal..."

    in Anal Avenue

    Posted

    Last night while fooling around with my guy he yet again bluntly proposed the possibility of anal sex that night. I was a little speechless... :blink: I'm not sure how I feel about it yet, so I told him I don't think I was ready for it.

    I just want to be able to enjoy it when the time comes. I've read the articles on this site, but they still don't seem to answer my questions. I've tried to relax and play around down there when I'm by myself (while playing with my clit and pussy at the same time), but the sensation of anything inside my butt makes me instantly turned-off. Are there any techniques to enjoy it before I actually try anything with my boyfriend? (and i'm not doing it just to please him, i am curious myself)

    Also, I've seen people ask time and time again about the pain factor, not during anal sex, but afterward. Even if you have all the lube in the world, isn't it inevitable to hurt after anal sex for someone who isn't experienced? Or is there something I'm missing? :unsure:

    Advice Please!!

  11. Too Horny?

    in Dating and Relationships

    Posted

    Talk to the pharmacist. He will give you a list of side effects that come with every drug sold. In fact, there is a fact sheet that is required to be placed in every bottle of drugs sold to a retailer, but not to the customer! They just get thrown out. The Pharamacist would be happy to give you the sheet to read. Most pharmacies today have all this information on their computers. They can also give you a printout of side effects. And, of course, if the side effects of the drug he is taking( probably ridalin) is to interfere with his sex drive, TALK to his doctor about finding something else for him to take for his problem. What you have described could be simply withdrawal symptoms from coming down from speed. You might also google ridalin, or just ADD and see what drugs are usually prescribed for this condition, and what side effects are disclosed on the information you find on the Net.

    Howard

    thank you for bringing the possibility of medication side affects to my attention, i would have never even considered it! he takes adderall and i have been looking online and it does mention a chance of a decrease in sex drive! i will talk to him about it as soon as i get the chance. thank you!

  14. Too Horny?

    in Dating and Relationships

    Posted

    Thank you everybody for your wonderful ideas and input! It has made me feel a lot better and has given me many new ideas!! He has been out of town for a few days and is coming back tomorrow (i miss him! but it's cute he has been calling me at least 5 times a day, lol). I think the best thing would to have a talk with him, away from the bedroom. But I am going to wait a little bit because I already know i'm not going to worry about not having sex often enough this week after he gets back (we're both dying to be with eachother) and i have some more toys coming at the end of the week so that will keep us busy ;). So once (or if) it starts up again in the next few weeks, i'll have a talk with him about it. Then I'm going to try some more seductive measures (i have already been buying sexy lingere, and trying the no-panties tactic, but i'll keep trying new things). Thank you and i'll keep you posted on the progress!

    This is a question you are going to have to ask him about- we can only guess, and badly as to why he is not in the mood. What kind of physical condition is he in? Is he taking medicines for anything? Does he exercise regularly? How does he sleep? Does he feel rested after a " normal" night's sleep? What is his family background and training about sex and marriage? Was he taught that he is not quite a man if he doesn't take control of the bedroom and be the one to decide when you guys have sex? Does he believe that sex is adult play time, and does he really like to play with you? The answers to these and other questions would lead us to possible answers.

    howard:

    He's in good physical condition (not buff, or skinny, or fat...but average i suppose). And he IS taking medication for ADD (attention deficit disorder) i never really thought it could affect his sex drive...does anyone know if it can? He doesn't exercise regularly, but he does have a pretty physically demanding job at a sporting goods store where he lifts things. And i know on some days he's not in the mood because he's tired (but its not all the time). His family knows we're sleeping together and is ok with it, as long as its not under their roof. I don't think he is worried about not being a "man" in the bedroom. I know he enjoys playing with me but sometimes he feels it takes a lot of energy for me to get off (whenever we're together, he wants to make sure i go at least once, if not multiple times). Now that I think about it more and more, i am starting to think it is his lack of energy keeping him from performing regularly. He works full time and before summer came he was in school full time too. Hmm... I suppose I'll get through this week and see how his energy levels do.

  19. Bullets?

    in General Sex Toy Discussion

    Posted

    Hey guys, sorry, I know i've made like a million posts, but I am looking at the bullets and eggs and I'm at a loss :unsure: . There isn't enough info given! So from experience, which do you think has the strongest vibrating power? I want to get a really good one so I don't waste money. I'm looking to spend under $25. Any ideas? Thanks!

  20. Opulent 4 1/2" Vibrator -- Don't Buy!

    in Sex Toy Reviews

    Posted

    I was only using mild soap and washing it by hand and then i would dry it with a small washcloth (not harsh or anything). So i guess this one was just defective? I hope I'm not using it too vigorously or something! lol.

    well seeing as it is only my 2nd toy i dont know how helpful i can be in recommending this one. Especially since my first toy was easy to surpass, it was a larger vibrator made out of a horrible material that always felt sticky and it was too big (which my bf did not like, lol) and the vibrations were pretty low...so it went in the trash. I am not having very good luck with toys so far...

    Putting the paint deterioration aside, I was happy with the power my new one gave off. It definitely gets the job done. Its pretty spunky and gives off a nice vibration strength and i really liked the size (which is why i'm getting the same one again, i cant find any others in the same size). And I liked the smoothness of it. When my bf would lick it to get it a little wet and turned on the vibrations it felt nice when you rubbed it--everywhere, it just slides smoothy across your skin. But another downside was it was a little hard to clean when it came to the end where you put the batteries in. Some "lady fluids" get trapped in the cracks and its a b*tch to clean it out. But if you keep it from going in too deep I don't think you'll have that problem.

    And update: i just placed a new order today! i got a purple Ultimate Pearl Beaded Rabbit Vibrator (wow, try saying that 5 times fast!) And the Hustler Rock-it (which i got free because of the special offer thing going on! yay! i hope everyone took advantage of that!) So i'll let you know how they stack up against the Opulent 4 1/2 Vibrator Compact Smooth. Ciao!

  21. Wish List

    in General Sex Toy Discussion

    Posted

    I wasn't sure where to post this, but I have noticed many of you mention your ever growing wish list for toys from tootimid. What I was wondering is why doesn't this site have a wish list feature? They only have a shopping cart. Right now mine is filled with things i WANT to get, but need to save up for. But once I can finally purchase another toy, I need to clear the cart of everything except what I am purchasing at the time. Then I will have to add everything again. Does anyone else feel the same way? If not, nevermind. But I think it would be a nice feature to have on the site. I like to keep track of random items I hear good reviews about. That way I can pick and choose from my list, until I finally get them all! ;) So Rob, or whoever manages the site, think about it! :)

  22. Opulent 4 1/2" Vibrator -- Don't Buy!

    in Sex Toy Reviews

    Posted

    i haven't used any type of lube (its all me), and as for washing, just a mild antibacterial handsoap (Softsoap brand to be exact). I just think it would be odd if a handsoap could do that to it! and the finish would only wear off after use, not when washing. (and again no lubes or creams, etc.) I'll look into returning it and call later.

    Woo! I just called Meaghan (what a nice girl) and she said they would ship me a new one. I'll toss this sucker out and see if this next one holds up. Wow, this place has great customer service! Thanks!!

  23. How Often

    in Masturbation Tips

    Posted

    Ashes24: I know you are from India, but I thought that country was at least on the planet Earth! My God, man, where did you get an idea that men can only climax once or twice a week? Most men can cum at least 5 times a day, when they are young, and sometimes well after they are past their 40's. If you are a man, masturbate and see how often you can cum in a day! That is how most of us men find out about these things. If you can't get another erection within 20 minutes or so, you should be seeing a medical doctor. Starvation and fatigue can be rough on getting erections, as can any illness, so if you have some chonic condition, You have my respect an apologies. But, if you are a normal, healthy, and well fed male, erections and ejaculations can occur easily multiple times a day. Go for it, buddy.

    hahaha, howard, you amuse me very much.

    as for me, i go through phases, for a few weeks i may do it everyday, a few times a day. But usually its everyday, before I go to bed. It seems like immediately after i orgasm i fall asleep so well! and i usually use my hand, but have been using a vibrator as well.

  24. Help Pleaase ... Real Urgent

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

    Posted

    It's nice to see a fellow youngster has joined tootimid, i am 18 as well. Another thing to consider before losing your virginity (because you're right, you can't lose it more than once) is how YOU feel about your girlfriend. If you are apprehensive about having sex with her, maybe you're not ready? If you truly believe you are in love and she is the right person to share this experience with (and it's the right time in your life), go for it! Goodluck, and please give us an update!

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