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I think that real communication is the key. What was it about the sex that wasn't so great? Are you in touch with your own needs so you can tell him what feels good to you? I think that next to intercourse, oral sex has been the most satisfying thing for myself and my lovers (and sometimes even more satisfying). I have come to realize that penis size is only a small part of the equation when it comes to great sex. If you love this person then you need to be patient and teach him how to please you and learn what pleases him. There are many "technical " things you can do to enhance love making: new positions, new locations, toys, spontaneous sex, etc.....But it all starts in the brain. Be open, honest and communicate your needs and wants. This is the best advice I can give. Good luck!!

Wow. Thank you all for the words of wisdom!! You have all given me a new found confidence, one that I have been lacking for a long time. I never really expected to get so many points of view on my problem. I just stumbled upon this site and I'm glad I did. I've always considered myself a good lover and I am always way more interested in getting my partner off, than in my own pleasure. Even though the women that I've been with usually seem happy with our sexual encounters, there is always that tought in the back of my mind wondering what she thinks of my "manhood". After hearing from all of you I know now that I can stop worrying and focus on enjoying the experience of being with a woman. Thank you!!!

Thanks for the words of encouragement! It is nice to hear someone say that size DOESN'T matter sometimes. In today's social circles and in the media all you hear is size does matter. I can relate to women who are self conscious about their small breasts. It is the same thing, we are conditioned to think the bigger the better. Thanks again.

I have been cursed with a small penis and it has really started to affect my sex life and my libido. I am very self conscious about it. When it is erect it is about 3-4 inches in length but when it isn't it is under an inch. I am finding that I am sometimes avoiding sexual contact with women because of it, and there are times when I am in sexual situations with women that I can't get an erection or achieve an orgasm because of it. I consider myself a good lover and I always make every effort to please my partner. I feel overwhelmed by the stigma! How do I get over this?? Help!