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Maybe I didn't explain things well...Sorry! I can get myself off manually. I have no problem bringing myself to climax without a toy while masturbating. However, I just bought a toy and WOW! I feel if I introduced this during sex, I would get that tiny bit more of stimuli needed for me to orgasm while with him. I just wondered if I should wait to orgasm during sex without the toy before trying it with the toy. I completely agree with you: faking orgasms solves nothing and that's why I've never done it. I'm thinking that if I use the vibrator during sex I could get used to orgasming with him, which may lead to it getting easier without the toy. Does that make sense?

Another question from me- I haven't had an orgasm with my boyfriend yet. I always enjoy it, but can't quite get there. I have never faked it, but I know he feels bad about not being able to share that experience with me. I'm almost positive a vibrator would help--a lot! However, I know that the Teachers on this site say not to use a toy in masturbation until someone knows how to get themselves off without one. (Which I can do) Does the same go for sex? Should I have an orgasm naturally without a toy before I introduce one during intercourse?

Thurisas- you're a genuis! It is now open--woohoo! Ok, but now my hands get numb after a short time of use. Can anyone give some tips on how to avoid this? (Right now I'm using Kleenex as a buffer) Thanks!

Nope, only one place to twist. It twists just fine but won't come apart. Does anyone who has this particular toy have any advice?

I just bought my first toy (a Doc Johnson GoVibe) and I can't get it to open to get the battery in. The package says it "Snaps open and closed" but it's not working for me when I try to pull it apart or twist it. Is there something I'm missing? Am I misreading the "snap" direction? I'd rather not go around asking people if they could get it open for me, lol.

Hi everyone! I'm back to let everyone know I am no longer a virgin. I lost it to a guy I've been dating who I like a lot. He is older but not terribly experienced himself and so far he has been pleased with my performance. This is how it happened: taking Howard's advice, I joined a group for young professionals and started attending meetings for the community service committee (I've always loved doing community service) I met this guy who I thought was really cute. It wasn't until a month (and several drinks) later that we made out (in a bar, which wasn't necessarily a good idea). I was actually kind of surprised that he called me after that. We went pretty far sexually pretty quickly, but it felt natural, so we just went with it. It didn't hurt my first time and I didn't use any lube, which made me quite happy. And he says I'm a natural at blowjobs! The thing is, I lied to him about being a virgin--as in I told him I wasn't. I told him I had had sex a total of three times six years ago, but that I had had sex. I'm not sure I'm ever going to tell him the truth. I told him I wasn't very experienced (that I had never given a blowjob, had a guy go down on me, etc) but I thought he might be freaked out by the 'virgin' thing, so I lied about it. Is this the worst thing in the world? Our first time went really smoothly, and I actually enjoyed it a lot although I didn't come, so does he even need to know? Let me know what you think, and thanks! (BTW, we used protection and I'm on birth control, so no need to worry about that!)

Thanks for all the advice! I love the suggestion of waiting until I find someone I have an emotional connection with and then having an open discussion about things. However, I'm afraid that might take forever! Like most single people, I've been looking for someone that I have a connection to, and it's frustrating when it doesn't happen, again and again. I think I'm going to have to be more proactive about meeting new people and giving guys a chance. Or I'll just hire a gigalo.

Hello all- I'm new to this forum, and as my username says, woefully inexperienced. I'm 24 and still a virgin. I'm not sure why--it's just never happened. It might be I'm too uptight, but there have been guys I've wanted to have sex with, so I don't think that's the problem. I don't have any body image problems and I'm an avid masturbater (well, I'd almost have to be) so I'm not closed to sexual feelings. But, at this point, I'm extremely ashamed of my virgin status. I'm afraid of getting intimate with a guy and doing everything wrong. I've never given a blow job and have never had a guy get me off. I'm afraid my sexual partner would think there must be something wrong with me because I am still a virgin and so inexperienced. Now, I'm almost (actually definitely) afraid to try. I feel lost. Can anyone give me some advice?