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Just wondering if anyone else here has a SO with health issues. .....
God bless her she tries and she fells bad about it too. She offers me sex a lot of times when I can see in her eyes that she really doesn't feel like it and as bad as I want it I tell her just to get some rest and we'll try to catch up when she feels better.
I guess I bored you all with my issues long enough but sometimes I just need to get it off of my chest and then take a deep breath and go again.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Man
Dear Man,
Whew! I will admit, I haven't followed up on Meniers yet. I have been a caregiver though. It is a long, tough road, and even more difficult when it seems you are traveling alone. Is there a support group for caregivers with loved ones who have Meniers? Can you afford to hire some household help? To help with housework, cooking, cleaning, etc.?
I have been ill for about a year now, (to the point where the doctor has declared me 'permanently disabled') My husband has, unfortunately been emotionally abusive, which just creates more stress, which just makes my health problems even worse! But, at the same time, I am aware that my husband also has health issues - the difference is, that I will admit that I need help, and I will tell the doctor if a medication is causing my libido issues. (Have you and/or your wife discussed libido issues/sex challenges with her doctor?) My husband, on the other hand, will NOT admit that he has health problems, and that his problems are just as debilitating as my own are - though in a few different ways.
In reading some information on my own health issues, one article pointed out that sexual relations (with my spouse) are wonderful for releasing the endorphins that ease/reduce pain. (I have always apparently also had the stronger libido than my husband.) His response was to send me an article about how dealing with a spouse with chronic pain affects the family, and even though I am telling him we NEED to connect, and make sexual intimacy a priority, he tells me that he is too afraid that he will hurt me! (That's what HURTS! The rejection, and at this point, feeling like he totally despises me.) I had also read that my health conditions should stabilize, only to then see my doctor who informed me that my conditions seem to be getting worse.
Anyway, there are options, that you and your wife can implement. And, they don't include any type of infidelity!
Remember - you are married, and your wife is STILL your Partner. Look together, to see if you can find some solutions that will make you both happy and content.
Also, I know it is very challenging! And I admire you for keeping your marriage and your relationship as a top priority! Bless you!
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I was on another forum discussing age differences, and relationships.
Anyone here with age differences among their partners?
I have a 17 year difference between me hubby. He'll be 29 in August, I'll be 46 in September and it doesn't bother us in the least, tho I do get a lot of bowing from my girlfriends
Koo Koo Ka Choo!
My first hubby was 40. I was 22 when we married. (Didn't work out.) But, NOT because of the age difference. (Maturity Difference - you bet! He's still immature!) 2nd hubby was only 9 months younger than me, and again - things didn't work out for us. (Different priorities.) My current hubby is just 12 days shy of being exactly 20 years younger than I am. We've been married for 10 years, he was 19 and I was 39. Although I'd like to see some improvements in our marriage (as would he) I believe they are all reasonable, IF we discuss them, and look for a solution. To be honest, if I had to do it all over again, I'd marry my hubby again! (Even if I knew then, what I know now. -- Provided he did too, and still proposed!) It's not the age differences that cause problems though. It is communication problems that cause the problems. Whether it is about choices, expectations, friends or sex, clear communication is a KEY necessity! The only other thing that can cause problems, (based on my own observations) is if the guy has "Y-chromosome syndrome" - e-mail me, if you need an explanation.
By the way, my Mom was 10 years older than my Dad. They divorced when I was 8, but again - it wasn't due to the age difference!
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How do you Put On Your nonpiercing Clit Clip:
Moisten the clitoris with saliva and stimulate just enough so it is erect. (You could get yourself and little help in this department but, don't get to carried away just yet) Make sure that the chains are not in your way, hold the clitoral hood and the clitoris out, sliding the clip down like a hairpin over the clitoris. I should fit securely and not hurt in any way. We do suggest that when you start out by open the clip just slightly and then once in place it can be tightened. As you become more familiar with you genital jewelry you will discover your own personal fit for maximum stimulation and comfort. Wear them to enhance any lusty evening by candle light at home or wear them out on the town under your clothes ...leave your panties at home.
Thank you for the information! I just need to clarify (sorry if I seem dense about this), when you say hold the hood and clitoris out, do you mean to slide the hood back or both the hood and clitoris out from the labia area, to be able to slide the clip? Also, when you say to slide the clip down like a hairpin, do you mean up towards your torso, back towards the vaginal opening, or down towards your feet? I'm guessing I'll also need to use a mirror, so that I can see when the clitoris is erect.
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I have purchased a couple of clitoris clips, and am considering some nipple clips/rings as well. But, try as I might, I cannot figure out how to wear (put on, or what???) the clitoral clips! (I'm trying to insert a picture here, not sure it it will work. Bear with me, please!
) Nipple & Clitoral JewelryHow do I do that??? Are there other models that are easier to wear (that are not piercings)? When should you wear them? Is there a time limit? How to introduce them? Can they be worn during intercourse?
I don't want any more body piercings. Also, how do non-piercing nipple rings work/get atached?
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Well, my order finally arrived. This one seemed to take longer to get here, for some reason. Generally, I am very impressed with the speed of service from Too Timid. But, I guess it happens from time to time.
Part of the order was for some Too Timid Pleasure Gel. (I love to try out new lubes!)
1 - Bad - getting the stuff out of the bottle, is a bit of a mood killer. I finally got the little safety cap thing off (that stops it from spilling around inside the shipping box). It took a bit, and definately slowed the action down.
2 - Bad - the bottle was so stiff and hard, that I had a heck of a time getting the lube out of the bottle. I finally had to totally remove the top, in order to shake some into my hands - then it was 'feast or famine' - either too much lube coming out of the bottle, or not enough. Now, I will admit - I do not have the strongest hands in the world, but I can manage to get most 'squeeze bottles' to function for me.
3 - Good - once I was actually able to access the lube, my hubby seemed to really like how it felt when I started a hand job, on him, to get him started.
4 - Bad - however, the product also seemd to evaporate quite quickly - so I had to engage in the Battle of the Bottle once again.
5 - Very bad - due to the difficulty of getting the product out of the bottle, on more than one occassion during the same 'sack session', hubby's focus changed from intimacy to 'nature calling' - and the mood definately died, leaving two very frustrated adults!
For starters, please change the packaging on this product. Then - maybe we can put the product through a more productive testing!
I would have to say this is 'Battle of the Bottle' - and the Bottle won! 2:0
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Hubby and I have started talking a little bit. (A little headway, but then schedule change comes along, and the intimacy goes down the 'crapper'.)
We definately need MORE 'Couple Time' - and he seems to rank that right up there with a root canal without any pain prevention/relief. <sigh>
So - since hubby is of the opinion that anal penetration is 'Exit Only' - any good tips on how to massage his prostate gland without penetration? (I have read that it can be massaged through the perianum...but not sure if I'm even getting close!
Dr. D light: You obviously need to talk to your husband at great length. He has nots of negative issues concerning sex, and you are not going to be happy with your sex life, ( and, truthfully, he's too stupid to know that he won't be happy with his sex life, either) until you get those worms out of his head.Toocan:... and even massaging the prostate gland during his climax, to blow your mind as well as your cock! Keep trying.
Howard
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NO FREAKING WAY!!!
My hubby has already told me I'm more woman than he can handle - so _why_ would I want to do that???
Also, even if prostitution is legalized, it _still_ exploits women. That's kind of like saying 'Well, ya know, we could legalize slavery agin, too. Thay say, th' South'll rise agin!' - Just because something is 'legal' doesn't make it 'right'!
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Congratulations!!!
I do hope I'm reading something wrong - you are older now (20 years old), and had a sex partner 10 years ago???
10 year old little girls shouldn't be having sexual activity - but if that was the case, you may have a bit of vaginismus going on as well. (That is where the vaginal muscles tend to contract tightly, despite you NOT wanting them to. Mind you, this is the 'very condensed version'.) Or, if you were 10, you may have had an injury, and there may be some adhesions that are blocking things as well.
I can also relate to what you are saying. My previous husbands were, I thought, quite large - but when I saw my husband for the first time, I was scared! He's built like a stallion!
So in addition to the information you have already received, may I add - take it slow. Try some of the woman on top positions - that way, you can control the depth of the penetration, as well as the speed of the penetration. And, for your guy, he gets a great view as well. One thing you can do, while in the woman superior position, slip just the head of his penis inside you, and out, then in again, and slip down on him a fraction of an inch, then up and out, and repeat - go very slowly, and as has been mentioned, use the lube! But, each time, try to go down a little farther - you can even 'tease' a little bit - go down, start back up, then go down again.
Also, at your next OB/GYN appointment, ask your MD if there is a possibility of vaginismus being a factor, and if it is - ask what can be done about it. Yes, the majority of women vaginally deliver good sized babies. But, there are also a few, who simply cannot do childbirth vaginally. And, now is as good a time as any to address those questions. (Even if you are planning on post-poning children for a while.)
I took the liberty of editing your original post (below) just to save space.
I hope this helps!
Hi everyone. It has been awhile since I have been on the site. I am now engaged to a wonderful man and I am committed to having a great sex life. That being said, we have experienced some technical difficulties in the bedroom and I was hoping for some suggestions.By way of background, I had only one other partner besides my fiance-- that was 10 years ago. What can I say, I am picky!!! I was surprised that the first time did not hurt a hell of alot more but chalked that up to my being older (age 20) and assumed by hymen had ruptured mostly previous to this.
My fiance, on the other hand, is enormous. I am totally serious when I say he is 12 inches and almost 4 fingers thick.
Here is the problem, sometimes we can get things to work almost smoothly (but I am not sure he has ever gotten all the way in) but other times, no matter what we try (positions, props), he can't get or stay in at all. He says it feels like he is hitting my pelvic bone. When this happens, he tries fingering me and sometimes can't even get 2 fingers in (I know, tight-right!).
Does anyone have suggestions for making some hot whoopie?
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I am a woman. I am more into 'couple play' than solo play - so finding toys that we can both enjoy to some degree is a special quest of mine.
I love some good lube products such as Cleopatra's Secret Cream - which can send me into major O-time if my hubby has been playing with me, with the Double Clit Lick, and pumping his own special 'toy' into me!
He tells me, that he likes to use a little pocket rocket vibe on me, which has a bunny sleeve. (He likes to watch my reactions while he runs the toys.) So - for us, the recipe for a mind rocking, toe curling Orgasm is:
A - Tease wife with 'Mr. Bunny'.
B - Kick it up a notch with the Double Clit Lick. NO1841-1
C - Apply Cleopatra's Secret Cream HP1400-00
D - Insert hubby
E - Hang on tight, for a wild ride!
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I am going to do my best to address each response to my original post. I do appreciate the input and information!
How is your husband about giving you oral sex?My husband was a virgin, and I was 'his first' (and to my knowledge, I am also his 'only'.) And, to the best of my knowledge he had not ever given or received OS before then. However - he was totally _awesome_ at giving OS! But, it has not happened very often. (I also like to make sure I am clean and fresh before hand - I had some gay male roommates once upon a lifetime ago - so I do _not_ want to be 'fishy'.) When my DH has given me OS - I have truly praised his skill. But, I also understand about 'taste issues'.
There is such a thing as a bad blow job, but I doubt that this is the problem here. I am suspecting that hubby doesn't want to reciprocate, that he thinks sex is about getting his rocks off, and not pleasuring his partner. He doesn't understand that your job is to pleasure him, while his job is to pleasure you. The reason you give him oral sex is because it is suppose to give him so much pleasure?
Much as I love my DH - he often refers to sexual activity as 'being naughty', 'being bad' or when I suggest it - he says 'you have a dirty, dirty mind!'
Does he have some pre-conceived notion that any woman who gives head is low class, or ' drity "? And that no self-respecting woman would do that to any man? That is part of the double standard doctrines about sex that were very prevalent back in the 1950s, and are still being practiced by many neanderthals.
I don't know. He rarely will discuss sexual issues with me. He was born in the late 1970's.
It probably comes down to asking your hubby what the heck that means, and listening. Men's heads are generally filled with all kinds of worms-- bad ideas about sex, the role of men and women, love, marriage, responsibility, duty------ all put there generally by older boys when they are young so that the listener can never compete successfully for women against the older boys. Its take a lot of maturity for a young boy to grow into a man, cast all that crap aside for what it is, get his head on right and go out and find a woman to love. It often takes a very good and wise woman to educate him, and, frankly, to tell him that what he was told was so much B.S. Don't hesitate to be that woman for your husband.
I was previously married, and my ex-hubby would get into the porn - and way too much 'solo play'. And, without any foreplay, he'd just come up and expect a bj - whether I was there mentally or emotionally or not. I thought that maybe that was causing my DH to be determined to not be like that.... So, I did ask. That was when he said 'I won't turn it down, but I won't ask for it, either. It's just not that much of a turn on for me.'
Mind you - I do not claim to be 'all that and a basket of posies' at my skill in OS. BUT - this is the only man I have really wanted to give a BJ too - and to 'go for the gold!' And, I am more than willing to try to learn how to give great OS - but it is hard when you have a partner who won't give you any feedback - or only negative feedback.
An interesting observation though - shortly after our marriage - and just as I was attempting to give DH a 'good morning' kiss below the belt - as well as morning nookie - he said in a very biting, sarcastic way 'What are you? Some kind of nymphomaniac???" - Needless to say - that has put a major crimp in our sexual relationship. I felt then, that he wants to be the one in charge of any initiating. But, he doesn't initiate! He once commented that he does like for me to initiate - and he's sorry he made his comment - he says 'I can't believe I was that stupid!'
Have fun.
Howard
I'd like to!!!
D.
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Ok - this is driving me nuts! What do you do, if your hubby says when it comes to Fellatio, he 'won't turn it down, but won't ask for it either"???
Seems it's 'OK - but nothing 'special'...
This is driving me crazy! He only says he 'likes his wife'. (That would be me.)
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Hello I am sort of new to the site but i have purchased a few items my wife has a vibrating egg that she likes and we do use but she also has a vibrator I forget the name but it is slim with a vibrating egg on the end (hopefully I described it right) anyhow we don't use it, she says its to "hard" so I am looking for something more flexible, managable 1in-1.75in diameter and about 6in in length any suggestions or favorites will be appreciated
You have a good suggestion about checking out the toy review pages. I too highly suggest some of the gel or jelly type toys. I have to admit, I haven't yet tried the Sila-Jel or cyberskin toys. They will come though - and yes, pun intended!
I also highly recommend that you get something that includes a clitoral stimulator as part of its design. Part of why your wife enoys the egg, is that it most likely is providing plenty of clitoral stimulation and 80-85% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to be able to climax.
In reading the reviews that have already been posted, she might enjoy the Double Clit Lick, or something that will combine clitoral and g-spot stimulation.
A couple of other toys you might want to consider would be a vibrating cock ring for you, which will give both of you pleasure, combined with using one of the clitoral pumps during foreplay, and if you are both into oral - give her a good licking! (Increase the sensitivity of her clitoris, add you vibrating over her and inside her - what a deal!)
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"So, the Toy Police, would they have a flashing vibrator on the roof of the car? And the siren a loud BUZZING sound? Cuff me and take me away!!! "
Here I was thinking this was a neat idea - but I was thinking you should get one of those remote control police cars or trucks or something - put one of those suction cup dildo's on the top - with a vibrating bullet on each side (or on each door) - include some padded hand cuffs... and some lube...maybe a catsuit, and a badge with some nipple clips...now THAT would definately be the TOY POLICE - LOL!!!
Now - for the 'fines' - asking ahead of time - 'fine'! - Can borrow the toy - but also have to play toys with me later on for sure!
Borrowing toy without permission - buying me a NEW toy!!!
Keeping a toy longer than period checked out for - playing toys with me AND buying me a NEW Toy!
Borrowing toy without permission - and keeping it out longer than allotted time - I Surprise YOU with a Toy when you least expect it - _where_ you least expect it....BOHICA!!!
LOL AND You play toys wth me, including the NEW expensive toy for Me! LOL -
Hey guys
ok so heres my problem... I CANT orgasm w/o playing with my clit. Never have & by the looks of things ill never be able to.
I can cum over and over when i get oral or when I do it my self but I just cant cum with anything inside my pussy. I love sex, i Just dont get y it wont happen!?! Tips? Pointers? anything lolOn a different group, we were discussing the use of sex toys. A woman who had been married for several years - mother of children, etc. _finally_ included a vibrator in their intimate time together. She reported that was the first time she had _ever_ reached an orgasm! Be glad that you know that you _can_ orgasm - and where you need to be touched to achieve one! A g-spot orgasm may eventuallyn be in store for you - read Mykayla's post on it.
I hope this helps!
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I would like to get a toy or toys for my husband for christmas but I have no idea what. I would like to get something we could use together but that would be more for his pleasure.Any ideas would be great. Toys or games. Would love to hear any ideas.
Thanks a bunch! Trista
Trista,
Of course, I don't know your husband, but I will also toss out a few suggestions as well.
Soft restraints and a blindfold - it is amazing when you get to put some trust issues to the test, and when you take one sense out of the picture -such as sight, you have to focus more on touch and hearing. Include flavored, warming and/or cooling lubes. Also - include some sex toys - clitoral stimulator, g-spot vibe, and either a cock and ball harness, or vibrating cock ring. The 'female toys' actually can have a surprising effect on your hubby - as men often enjoy watching the process of female arousal - and if they have a toy that they can use to cause us to reach orgasm, they often enjoy playing with it - and you!
Include some scented candles and aroma-therapy type items as well. I make my own perfume using essential oils. (Use only about 1 drop in carrier oil, such as Almond Oil). I used to work with a guy who was married when I was single. He loved the fragrance of my perfume (I did not apply it heavily!) and one day, he asked if I would put some on a handkerchief for him so he could smell it all night. I laughed - and told him sure -- but ONLY if he would get a note from his wife stating that a) she would not be mad at him for wanting to smell my perfume all night long, and
that she wouldn't kill me because of his request!!! He then thought about it, and realized where he could have gotten in a LOT of trouble.I hope this helps.
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Mikayla has taken on the challenge of creating podcasts for TooTimid that are educational and entertaining. Over the next few months we really hope to create a worthy collection of podcasts.
Right click link and select SAVE AS to save this podcast to your computer.
Your feedback is very important to us. Please send me a PM, call me at the office or reply here with any feedback you have.
Does anyone have any interest in taking a sexy story found on this site and turning it into a podcast?
Happy Thanksgiving to all of you and your families!
Rob
Oops!!!
I was trying to respond to your message Rob. Silly laptop sent it before I could type in a reply!
I'd be willing to do a podcast - if you just tell me - or get me the information on how to do it!
Also - and this may be slightly OT -- but in trying to sign up as an affiliate, I get everything filled out, and then get a message about the link not working.
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How about, the most creative/imaginitive thing that you did in the bedroom?
I couldn't do that one, I use those creative/imaginative things in the bedroom to maintain, and further develop my business. I am working on an idea that I have had for some time, but just need to learn how to put it into action.
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I'm so happy for you!! The bullet is one of the most awesome of adult toys, IMO. The variety that you can get and versatility as well, well the possibilities are virtually endless! And they make them soooo pretty too!!
Glad you enjoyed them, and keep up the great updates!!
Thank you Tyger - I love your BOHICA! LOL
I also see that customizing messages is a little different than I had first expected - LOL -- I certainly didn't intend for the html code to show up in my message!
Also, in re-reading some of the other product reviews, I need to do a bit better. I was just totally impressed with the speed of service, and the quality of the product!
May your relationship be filled with bliss and delight!
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If Ben Wa Balls are 'shooting out' - it is generally due to poor PC muscle tone.
I bought some several years ago as well - but had been quite nervous about trying them - similar to the concern of the other wife - of 'what if they get stuck'?
Mine have never gotten stuck! They _do_ act as a great reminder to do your Kegel's! (Which also prevent incontinence!!!!)
One other 'side effect' - I have personally noticed that when I am removing them, they tend to roll against my clitoris - and it feels _really_ nice! Sometimes, if I am overdue to do some Kegel's - the balls will slip out (wearing panties is an _excellent_ suggestion!!!) and slide against my clitoris - which further stimulates me - I then pop them back in, but almost look forward to them slipping out so I can feel them slide against my clitoris - and of course, they slide by again, on their way back in.
I also second what Mikayla said about the meditation balls - though I vaguely seem to remember another company offering Ben Wa Balls that did have a chime inside them. A lady reported that they were chiming everytime her truck went over the railroad tracks near her home - and wearing them while driving over railraod tracks about guaranteed an orgasm - which got a bit embarrassing as she was driving her husband's co-worker home from work.
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When I am really close to my lover it is important that I fulfill her fantasies and how can I do this if she does not honestly share them with me? She must not be shy to HARE ALL but the independent ladies I've met today seem to play games instead of sharing their real thoughts, wishes and needs! Why?
I would love to share fantasies and real thoughts with my DH - but - when I ask him what he likes (sexually) his response is _always_ - "I like my wife!" When I ask him, what turns him on - the answer is the same "My wife!". If I ask him what would 'rock his world'-- again - I get the same answer. Mind you - he is HOT - and I do love him - but it is hard to share when one partner withholds and refuses to share thoughts, passions, etc.
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Have you tried having her kneel over top of you - shall we say a variation of 69 - but with her on top? Start the Oral that way -- then just say "Man - I want you doggie style - or shift her forward, then sit up with her legs straddling your shoulders..'" just a few suggestions that may help make progress towards your fantasy.
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BTW...I used a g/c to buy this INSTEAD of diamond earrings...what a sacrifice (hahahhaa)
Ok - hate to seem clueless - but what is g/c????
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I have been wanting to post a review on my first experience in purchasing from TooTimid.com - as well as a review of the Powerful, Sparkling, Vibrating Egg!
Let me say, I have never before purchased a sex toy on-line or via mail order. The letter from TooTimid.com stated that I should expect my product in 2 or 3 weeks. My order arrived within approximately 3 days! I was very impressed with the speed of product delivery! My product also arrived in discrete packaging! Again - a very favorable first impression!
I had planned this purchase as a surprise for my husband since I always say, that although I can't do anything about when he has to be gone - or how long he has to be gone, I _do_ have at least some control as to what our reunions will be like! However, he had been keeping an eye on my credit card account, and wondered what in the world I had purchased - and of course, all I would tell him was that it was a surprise intended for us a couple - but I wasn't expecting it to arrive for 2 or 3 weeks.
Well, the big night finally arrived! We had a lot of fun playing with our new toy! I must say, my DH seemed to enjoy it being used on him, and also seemed to enjoy turning the tables on me, and using it on me as well! We definately enjoyed it - and look forward to further purchases from TooTimid.com.
Keep it up!
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Ok me and my girlfriend had an idea for a sort of interactive sex game, and we tried it on another site but I think everyone was too scared to try it out. Thisis how it works: We need to get 2 other couples to participate, and what we do is the 1st couple gives a sexual task, or dare, and the other two couples must complete this task within 24 hours and post that they have completed it. Then it is the next teams turn to pick a task or dare...... This repeats untill a team is unable or unwilling to complete the task or dare untill there is one team left. If both couples fail to complete the task then the team that proposed the task must complete them slves to win. This is based on honesty and meant to add new and exciting fun to your love life!!! If anyone is interested post please, and the first two couples to post will be the two to participate!
I'd love to play - but DH is away until the 28th of Oct....like another poster on here - I'd love to play, but I probably won't tell DH that we are playing a game.
I can cum over and over when i get oral or when I do it my self but I just cant cum with anything inside my pussy. I love sex, i Just dont get y it wont happen!?! Tips? Pointers? anything lol
that she wouldn't kill me because of his request!!! He then thought about it, and realized where he could have gotten in a LOT of trouble.
Velvet Impulse Vibe - Good Things Come In Small Packages!
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I always heard that good things often come in small packages...
I was a bit surprised with this one. I knew it was a bullet, but I'd never seen an 'on/off switch' like this one.
Shortly after it's arrival, I had a night when I was just too restless, and hubby was in a foul mood. (It's generally best if I just let him work through his issues.)
Anyway, I removed the wrapper, used my toy cleaner, and finally figured out the power button (well, mostly). At first, I thought I was going to have to report that it didn't work unless you maintained pressure on the on/off button. But, I finally discovered that you just have to get the right click to get it to keep the power on.
I was also thrilled by how quiet this toy is! (Of course, being hearing impaired, I may not be the best judge of that, LOL)
I noticed that this particular model seems to only have one speed - high and fast! Though I generally like to start low and slow, then build up to high and fast, I still gave it a try. Plus, it seemed fitting, since I really was just wanting a quickie anyway.
The velvet feel is very nice on this bullet. It also felt nice just held in my hand. The texture combined with the speed and intensity of the vibrations provided an instant gasp of pleasure as soon as it touched my love button! I'm not generally into 'do it yourself', but this toy may well be the exception to my rule. Like I said, this was just a 'quickie', but managed to get me off just enough so I could finish the other things I needed to do that evening. I do know that I made a mental note to 'try that again, when I have more time to relax, and check it out more in depth.
When I can more accurately determine the noise level, I may even try using it in a more public setting. The thought of putting that to work, while I drive to or from my massage is definately tempting!
(I'm afraid if I had it 'working' during the massage, that people may wonder about the sounds coming out of the massage cubicle. LOL) 
I highly recommend this product. The price is very reasonable, and as always, TooTimid provides excellent delivery service!