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I always heard that good things often come in small packages... I was a bit surprised with this one. I knew it was a bullet, but I'd never seen an 'on/off switch' like this one. Shortly after it's arrival, I had a night when I was just too restless, and hubby was in a foul mood. (It's generally best if I just let him work through his issues.) Anyway, I removed the wrapper, used my toy cleaner, and finally figured out the power button (well, mostly). At first, I thought I was going to have to report that it didn't work unless you maintained pressure on the on/off button. But, I finally discovered that you just have to get the right click to get it to keep the power on. I was also thrilled by how quiet this toy is! (Of course, being hearing impaired, I may not be the best judge of that, LOL) I noticed that this particular model seems to only have one speed - high and fast! Though I generally like to start low and slow, then build up to high and fast, I still gave it a try. Plus, it seemed fitting, since I really was just wanting a quickie anyway. The velvet feel is very nice on this bullet. It also felt nice just held in my hand. The texture combined with the speed and intensity of the vibrations provided an instant gasp of pleasure as soon as it touched my love button! I'm not generally into 'do it yourself', but this toy may well be the exception to my rule. Like I said, this was just a 'quickie', but managed to get me off just enough so I could finish the other things I needed to do that evening. I do know that I made a mental note to 'try that again, when I have more time to relax, and check it out more in depth. When I can more accurately determine the noise level, I may even try using it in a more public setting. The thought of putting that to work, while I drive to or from my massage is definately tempting! (I'm afraid if I had it 'working' during the massage, that people may wonder about the sounds coming out of the massage cubicle. LOL) I highly recommend this product. The price is very reasonable, and as always, TooTimid provides excellent delivery service!

Dear Man, Whew! I will admit, I haven't followed up on Meniers yet. I have been a caregiver though. It is a long, tough road, and even more difficult when it seems you are traveling alone. Is there a support group for caregivers with loved ones who have Meniers? Can you afford to hire some household help? To help with housework, cooking, cleaning, etc.? I have been ill for about a year now, (to the point where the doctor has declared me 'permanently disabled') My husband has, unfortunately been emotionally abusive, which just creates more stress, which just makes my health problems even worse! But, at the same time, I am aware that my husband also has health issues - the difference is, that I will admit that I need help, and I will tell the doctor if a medication is causing my libido issues. (Have you and/or your wife discussed libido issues/sex challenges with her doctor?) My husband, on the other hand, will NOT admit that he has health problems, and that his problems are just as debilitating as my own are - though in a few different ways. In reading some information on my own health issues, one article pointed out that sexual relations (with my spouse) are wonderful for releasing the endorphins that ease/reduce pain. (I have always apparently also had the stronger libido than my husband.) His response was to send me an article about how dealing with a spouse with chronic pain affects the family, and even though I am telling him we NEED to connect, and make sexual intimacy a priority, he tells me that he is too afraid that he will hurt me! (That's what HURTS! The rejection, and at this point, feeling like he totally despises me.) I had also read that my health conditions should stabilize, only to then see my doctor who informed me that my conditions seem to be getting worse. Anyway, there are options, that you and your wife can implement. And, they don't include any type of infidelity! Remember - you are married, and your wife is STILL your Partner. Look together, to see if you can find some solutions that will make you both happy and content. Also, I know it is very challenging! And I admire you for keeping your marriage and your relationship as a top priority! Bless you!

My first hubby was 40. I was 22 when we married. (Didn't work out.) But, NOT because of the age difference. (Maturity Difference - you bet! He's still immature!) 2nd hubby was only 9 months younger than me, and again - things didn't work out for us. (Different priorities.) My current hubby is just 12 days shy of being exactly 20 years younger than I am. We've been married for 10 years, he was 19 and I was 39. Although I'd like to see some improvements in our marriage (as would he) I believe they are all reasonable, IF we discuss them, and look for a solution. To be honest, if I had to do it all over again, I'd marry my hubby again! (Even if I knew then, what I know now. -- Provided he did too, and still proposed!) It's not the age differences that cause problems though. It is communication problems that cause the problems. Whether it is about choices, expectations, friends or sex, clear communication is a KEY necessity! The only other thing that can cause problems, (based on my own observations) is if the guy has "Y-chromosome syndrome" - e-mail me, if you need an explanation. By the way, my Mom was 10 years older than my Dad. They divorced when I was 8, but again - it wasn't due to the age difference!

Thank you for the information! I just need to clarify (sorry if I seem dense about this), when you say hold the hood and clitoris out, do you mean to slide the hood back or both the hood and clitoris out from the labia area, to be able to slide the clip? Also, when you say to slide the clip down like a hairpin, do you mean up towards your torso, back towards the vaginal opening, or down towards your feet? I'm guessing I'll also need to use a mirror, so that I can see when the clitoris is erect.

I have purchased a couple of clitoris clips, and am considering some nipple clips/rings as well. But, try as I might, I cannot figure out how to wear (put on, or what???) the clitoral clips! (I'm trying to insert a picture here, not sure it it will work. Bear with me, please! ) Nipple & Clitoral Jewelry How do I do that??? Are there other models that are easier to wear (that are not piercings)? When should you wear them? Is there a time limit? How to introduce them? Can they be worn during intercourse? I don't want any more body piercings. Also, how do non-piercing nipple rings work/get atached?

Well, my order finally arrived. This one seemed to take longer to get here, for some reason. Generally, I am very impressed with the speed of service from Too Timid. But, I guess it happens from time to time. Part of the order was for some Too Timid Pleasure Gel. (I love to try out new lubes!) 1 - Bad - getting the stuff out of the bottle, is a bit of a mood killer. I finally got the little safety cap thing off (that stops it from spilling around inside the shipping box). It took a bit, and definately slowed the action down. 2 - Bad - the bottle was so stiff and hard, that I had a heck of a time getting the lube out of the bottle. I finally had to totally remove the top, in order to shake some into my hands - then it was 'feast or famine' - either too much lube coming out of the bottle, or not enough. Now, I will admit - I do not have the strongest hands in the world, but I can manage to get most 'squeeze bottles' to function for me. 3 - Good - once I was actually able to access the lube, my hubby seemed to really like how it felt when I started a hand job, on him, to get him started. 4 - Bad - however, the product also seemd to evaporate quite quickly - so I had to engage in the Battle of the Bottle once again. 5 - Very bad - due to the difficulty of getting the product out of the bottle, on more than one occassion during the same 'sack session', hubby's focus changed from intimacy to 'nature calling' - and the mood definately died, leaving two very frustrated adults! For starters, please change the packaging on this product. Then - maybe we can put the product through a more productive testing! I would have to say this is 'Battle of the Bottle' - and the Bottle won! 2:0

Hubby and I have started talking a little bit. (A little headway, but then schedule change comes along, and the intimacy goes down the 'crapper'.) We definately need MORE 'Couple Time' - and he seems to rank that right up there with a root canal without any pain prevention/relief. <sigh> So - since hubby is of the opinion that anal penetration is 'Exit Only' - any good tips on how to massage his prostate gland without penetration? (I have read that it can be massaged through the perianum...but not sure if I'm even getting close!

NO FREAKING WAY!!! My hubby has already told me I'm more woman than he can handle - so _why_ would I want to do that??? Also, even if prostitution is legalized, it _still_ exploits women. That's kind of like saying 'Well, ya know, we could legalize slavery agin, too. Thay say, th' South'll rise agin!' - Just because something is 'legal' doesn't make it 'right'!

Congratulations!!! I do hope I'm reading something wrong - you are older now (20 years old), and had a sex partner 10 years ago??? 10 year old little girls shouldn't be having sexual activity - but if that was the case, you may have a bit of vaginismus going on as well. (That is where the vaginal muscles tend to contract tightly, despite you NOT wanting them to. Mind you, this is the 'very condensed version'.) Or, if you were 10, you may have had an injury, and there may be some adhesions that are blocking things as well. I can also relate to what you are saying. My previous husbands were, I thought, quite large - but when I saw my husband for the first time, I was scared! He's built like a stallion! So in addition to the information you have already received, may I add - take it slow. Try some of the woman on top positions - that way, you can control the depth of the penetration, as well as the speed of the penetration. And, for your guy, he gets a great view as well. One thing you can do, while in the woman superior position, slip just the head of his penis inside you, and out, then in again, and slip down on him a fraction of an inch, then up and out, and repeat - go very slowly, and as has been mentioned, use the lube! But, each time, try to go down a little farther - you can even 'tease' a little bit - go down, start back up, then go down again. Also, at your next OB/GYN appointment, ask your MD if there is a possibility of vaginismus being a factor, and if it is - ask what can be done about it. Yes, the majority of women vaginally deliver good sized babies. But, there are also a few, who simply cannot do childbirth vaginally. And, now is as good a time as any to address those questions. (Even if you are planning on post-poning children for a while.) I took the liberty of editing your original post (below) just to save space. I hope this helps!

I am a woman. I am more into 'couple play' than solo play - so finding toys that we can both enjoy to some degree is a special quest of mine. I love some good lube products such as Cleopatra's Secret Cream - which can send me into major O-time if my hubby has been playing with me, with the Double Clit Lick, and pumping his own special 'toy' into me! He tells me, that he likes to use a little pocket rocket vibe on me, which has a bunny sleeve. (He likes to watch my reactions while he runs the toys.) So - for us, the recipe for a mind rocking, toe curling Orgasm is: A - Tease wife with 'Mr. Bunny'. B - Kick it up a notch with the Double Clit Lick. NO1841-1 C - Apply Cleopatra's Secret Cream HP1400-00 D - Insert hubby E - Hang on tight, for a wild ride!

I am going to do my best to address each response to my original post. I do appreciate the input and information! I'd like to!!! D.

Ok - this is driving me nuts! What do you do, if your hubby says when it comes to Fellatio, he 'won't turn it down, but won't ask for it either"??? Seems it's 'OK - but nothing 'special'... This is driving me crazy! He only says he 'likes his wife'. (That would be me.)

You have a good suggestion about checking out the toy review pages. I too highly suggest some of the gel or jelly type toys. I have to admit, I haven't yet tried the Sila-Jel or cyberskin toys. They will come though - and yes, pun intended! I also highly recommend that you get something that includes a clitoral stimulator as part of its design. Part of why your wife enoys the egg, is that it most likely is providing plenty of clitoral stimulation and 80-85% of women need clitoral stimulation in order to be able to climax. In reading the reviews that have already been posted, she might enjoy the Double Clit Lick, or something that will combine clitoral and g-spot stimulation. A couple of other toys you might want to consider would be a vibrating cock ring for you, which will give both of you pleasure, combined with using one of the clitoral pumps during foreplay, and if you are both into oral - give her a good licking! (Increase the sensitivity of her clitoris, add you vibrating over her and inside her - what a deal!)

"So, the Toy Police, would they have a flashing vibrator on the roof of the car? And the siren a loud BUZZING sound? Cuff me and take me away!!! " Here I was thinking this was a neat idea - but I was thinking you should get one of those remote control police cars or trucks or something - put one of those suction cup dildo's on the top - with a vibrating bullet on each side (or on each door) - include some padded hand cuffs... and some lube...maybe a catsuit, and a badge with some nipple clips...now THAT would definately be the TOY POLICE - LOL!!! Now - for the 'fines' - asking ahead of time - 'fine'! - Can borrow the toy - but also have to play toys with me later on for sure! Borrowing toy without permission - buying me a NEW toy!!! Keeping a toy longer than period checked out for - playing toys with me AND buying me a NEW Toy! Borrowing toy without permission - and keeping it out longer than allotted time - I Surprise YOU with a Toy when you least expect it - _where_ you least expect it....BOHICA!!! LOL AND You play toys wth me, including the NEW expensive toy for Me! LOL

On a different group, we were discussing the use of sex toys. A woman who had been married for several years - mother of children, etc. _finally_ included a vibrator in their intimate time together. She reported that was the first time she had _ever_ reached an orgasm! Be glad that you know that you _can_ orgasm - and where you need to be touched to achieve one! A g-spot orgasm may eventuallyn be in store for you - read Mykayla's post on it. I hope this helps!

Trista, Of course, I don't know your husband, but I will also toss out a few suggestions as well. Soft restraints and a blindfold - it is amazing when you get to put some trust issues to the test, and when you take one sense out of the picture -such as sight, you have to focus more on touch and hearing. Include flavored, warming and/or cooling lubes. Also - include some sex toys - clitoral stimulator, g-spot vibe, and either a cock and ball harness, or vibrating cock ring. The 'female toys' actually can have a surprising effect on your hubby - as men often enjoy watching the process of female arousal - and if they have a toy that they can use to cause us to reach orgasm, they often enjoy playing with it - and you! Include some scented candles and aroma-therapy type items as well. I make my own perfume using essential oils. (Use only about 1 drop in carrier oil, such as Almond Oil). I used to work with a guy who was married when I was single. He loved the fragrance of my perfume (I did not apply it heavily!) and one day, he asked if I would put some on a handkerchief for him so he could smell it all night. I laughed - and told him sure -- but ONLY if he would get a note from his wife stating that a) she would not be mad at him for wanting to smell my perfume all night long, and that she wouldn't kill me because of his request!!! He then thought about it, and realized where he could have gotten in a LOT of trouble. I hope this helps.

Oops!!! I was trying to respond to your message Rob. Silly laptop sent it before I could type in a reply! I'd be willing to do a podcast - if you just tell me - or get me the information on how to do it! Also - and this may be slightly OT -- but in trying to sign up as an affiliate, I get everything filled out, and then get a message about the link not working.

I couldn't do that one, I use those creative/imaginative things in the bedroom to maintain, and further develop my business. I am working on an idea that I have had for some time, but just need to learn how to put it into action.

Thank you Tyger - I love your BOHICA! LOL I also see that customizing messages is a little different than I had first expected - LOL -- I certainly didn't intend for the html code to show up in my message! Also, in re-reading some of the other product reviews, I need to do a bit better. I was just totally impressed with the speed of service, and the quality of the product! May your relationship be filled with bliss and delight!

If Ben Wa Balls are 'shooting out' - it is generally due to poor PC muscle tone. I bought some several years ago as well - but had been quite nervous about trying them - similar to the concern of the other wife - of 'what if they get stuck'? Mine have never gotten stuck! They _do_ act as a great reminder to do your Kegel's! (Which also prevent incontinence!!!!) One other 'side effect' - I have personally noticed that when I am removing them, they tend to roll against my clitoris - and it feels _really_ nice! Sometimes, if I am overdue to do some Kegel's - the balls will slip out (wearing panties is an _excellent_ suggestion!!!) and slide against my clitoris - which further stimulates me - I then pop them back in, but almost look forward to them slipping out so I can feel them slide against my clitoris - and of course, they slide by again, on their way back in. I also second what Mikayla said about the meditation balls - though I vaguely seem to remember another company offering Ben Wa Balls that did have a chime inside them. A lady reported that they were chiming everytime her truck went over the railroad tracks near her home - and wearing them while driving over railraod tracks about guaranteed an orgasm - which got a bit embarrassing as she was driving her husband's co-worker home from work.

I would love to share fantasies and real thoughts with my DH - but - when I ask him what he likes (sexually) his response is _always_ - "I like my wife!" When I ask him, what turns him on - the answer is the same "My wife!". If I ask him what would 'rock his world'-- again - I get the same answer. Mind you - he is HOT - and I do love him - but it is hard to share when one partner withholds and refuses to share thoughts, passions, etc.

Have you tried having her kneel over top of you - shall we say a variation of 69 - but with her on top? Start the Oral that way -- then just say "Man - I want you doggie style - or shift her forward, then sit up with her legs straddling your shoulders..'" just a few suggestions that may help make progress towards your fantasy.

Ok - hate to seem clueless - but what is g/c????

I have been wanting to post a review on my first experience in purchasing from TooTimid.com - as well as a review of the Powerful, Sparkling, Vibrating Egg! Let me say, I have never before purchased a sex toy on-line or via mail order. The letter from TooTimid.com stated that I should expect my product in 2 or 3 weeks. My order arrived within approximately 3 days! I was very impressed with the speed of product delivery! My product also arrived in discrete packaging! Again - a very favorable first impression! I had planned this purchase as a surprise for my husband since I always say, that although I can't do anything about when he has to be gone - or how long he has to be gone, I _do_ have at least some control as to what our reunions will be like! However, he had been keeping an eye on my credit card account, and wondered what in the world I had purchased - and of course, all I would tell him was that it was a surprise intended for us a couple - but I wasn't expecting it to arrive for 2 or 3 weeks. Well, the big night finally arrived! We had a lot of fun playing with our new toy! I must say, my DH seemed to enjoy it being used on him, and also seemed to enjoy turning the tables on me, and using it on me as well! We definately enjoyed it - and look forward to further purchases from TooTimid.com. Keep it up!

I'd love to play - but DH is away until the 28th of Oct....like another poster on here - I'd love to play, but I probably won't tell DH that we are playing a game.