Tonia S

Howard: Thank you so much for your reply and advice. It's funny you mentioned "cater to him like he's still a little boy, and you are his nanny." My mother has told me this very same thing in different ways. He is 11 years younger than I am, and now I'm wondering if I am not treating him like a child? Something, I need to think long and hard about and correct. I have tried talking to him nice, mean, pleading; you name it; I've tried it! I've even tried begging him to let me make love to him the way I want. He let me one time but since then he still limits my freedom with him. I want to make love to him inside and out! I want him to make love to me inside and out! I will do things to turn him on, to entice him, to tempt him and to drive him crazy and he will react, but still there are no no's that I have come to realize I cannot cross. He tells me I am the "best" yet, he will not allow me to have my way with him. I tell him he is the "best" when things are going great! We are so awesome together at times it blows my mind, but it's always more me than him. I am so free with my body with him and I am so willing to do everything I can to please him. I only have a few limitations and they all are connected to don't physically hurt me and don't mentally hurt me; other than that you may have your way with me! I just want the same in return. Unfortunately, I've found (in my brief worldly experiences) that most men are this way. I'm now 47 and I realize life is getting shorter day by day and I am not willing to let go of my hopes and dreams, yet I can't help but feel I deserve to be loved the way I love in return. Again, I am asking: I'm I wrong to feel this way? I really need to know. Thanks again, Tonia

Hi to you all and thank you very much for your replies! To answer some of your questions. I have talked to this man repeatedly asking for his understanding and help. Sometimes, at least at first, he will try hard to do the things I have asked him, but in time his same behavior returns. I have talked to him about getting medical help with his sinus and/or allergy problem; but to no avail. This man hates going to doctors and will not go unless it's just so bad he has too! This is how we met in the first place. I worked for an Urgent Care Medical Facility and he had not been there in 7 years the night we met. He told me later if he'd known he only had a back strain instead of an urinary track infection he would not have been there that night. I've talked to him in many different ways but nothing is working long term. This man can be very passionate when he wants to be with the one exception of long kisses; this will only happen with him on very rare occasions. I have explained to him time and time again that I have tried hard to except this in him, but for the life of me I cannot. Am I wrong? Please be honest. If I've learned one thing in life it's that "if we learn not to sweat the small stuff; life is so much better!" I love him so much and I do not want to lose him. However, I do not know how to live without long passionate kisses and a lot of affection. He will touch me at least half of what I like but then our biggest problem in the affection area is that; he will not allow me to touch him in ways I want to touch him. I want to touch him all over and hold him totally, but he has this hangup when it comes to me touching him. I am not allowed to touch his neck, sides, head and ears. I am not allowed to touch the side of his face. This is driving me nuts. He tells me he will try harder but it's still the same. He explained he is ticklish and that his grandfather would hold him down when he was young and tickle him. I understand this and at first worried something bad must have happened, but he swears his grandfather was the best. So, I go on trying to understand. Hey, even I have some of these problems. I can't stand being in closed places and I have a huge fear of spiders and snakes. It's just I know with him I do everything I possibly can to be all he wants me to be. I feel when you are married you belong to one another totally and should try to be as free with your spouse as you possibly can. Again, thank you all so very much for your advice and know this; you have all helped me. :-) I didn't know they even made male dolls but happy to hear it. I realize I can't get the kind of affection I need from one but hey I tried!!!! LOL!!! Tonia

Hi I'm New, I'm married to a wonderful man but unfortunately he has some hang-ups that hurt and sometimes annoy me. I am madly in love with this man but I have needs as well as he has. I need long passionate kisses and hugs and he can't breathe or he doesn't enjoy the act of long anything. I have found there are plenty of toys for a man to substiute a woman with and plenty of dildo type toys for vaginal stimulation but what about women's needs as far as affection and passion. I need a doll who can french kiss for a long time who can touch me and feel me all over. I need a doll who will use it's tongue on me and it's mouth??? Can anyone explain to me why there is absense of such toys??? How does an over sensual; sexual and passionate person like me find satisfaction?? Help Please!!!!!! Thank you, Tonia S