Howard, he would never do any of the things you mentioned. When he's done he's done and he wouldn't even be interested the next day much less the same day. Sex is work to him. It must be because ususally when I try to initiate it he says he is tired or needs to relax. He would never "tease" me as you say. He will slow down if I yell at him to stop for a minute and just quit moving, but next time its just the same. I suppose I should tell you that he has a form of high functioning autism called Aspergers. I'm sure this is a huge contributing factor. He really only likes doggy style. I prefer missionary just because I like to feel his weight and feel dominated, but I've kind of given up on it becasue he always complains that his arms are getting tired then he will pretty much just lay on me and let his chin dig into my collarbone. Not very condusive to orgasm. He looks at me if I ask him to, but only for a moment. Most autistic people have problems with eye contact. He only seems to have trouble with it during sex. I've been with him for 10 years and we have two daughters, but I don't know if I can resign myself to this lack of intimacy much longer.