Here's the background. Before being married I was pretty wild. Many partners, anything goes. A mutual friend set my hubby and I up. He was/is a really nice guy and didn't care/ask about my past sex history. Sex was OK....but he was a nice guy...and I was supposed to be looking for a nice guy. We got married, had baby #1 ...still had sex...not frequently ...but with a kid and jobs we were tired. Baby #2 came about 6 years ago up until 10/13/06 we hadn't had sex. I suggested many times over the course of those years with no luck. I wondered if he was having an affair he said no. We've had many trials and tribulations that many never have had to deal with. 1. I started making more money then him. 2. He found out that he had a bad kidney and had to have it removed. 3. He lost his job and had to take a job making less money. 4. We were hit by a hurricane and had to rebuild our home. 5. We lived with my parents for 18 mos while rebuilding. Any 1 of these could have caused a marriage to crumble. Something finally snapped in me - my triggers were; turning 40, having a scare with possible breast cancer and having our 14 year anniversary. Here is were the trouble begins... I stopped taking the pill because we weren't having sex. Apparently my sexdrive was very suppressed by the hormones. WOW. I was masterbating constantly...but still missed intercourse. So the Saturday morning before our anniversary (it fell on a weekday) I made a point of saying that we didn't to break the drought that night. He said OK and but was a bit standofish. We didn't work on any major projects. We had an early dinner...where I reminded him again that I wanted to have sex. He was already playing the I'm tired card. I was so mad. So I tried calming down. I cried. Then I went up to see what was going on...he was already sleeping and our oldest had been watching TV with him...hmm that's great for the mood. Then I went downstairs and really cried. I was the horniest that I'd ever been in my life and I was being rejected by my own hubby. I was mortified. So I started browsing for porn...found a couple of sites for hooking up and signed up...in a day or two I was IMing a guy and having phone sex with him...it felt good. I met the guy a few days later and we made out. It was wonderful. Sunday morning when I told my husband how upset I was he didn't seem to care. I asked him if I was supposed to get a vibrator? He thought I already had one - I didn't - I felt like I had been punched - not sure why - but I was kind of like if you don't care enough to makesure that I'm satisfied then I might as well find a lover. I asked for a separation....The next night he asked for marriage counseling....I had him fuck me that night and it was OK...just OK. So the phone sex went on....I actually met another married man and had wonderful sex....I came twice it was delicious. But I'm trying to save my marriage and while he is trying on the other stuff. He is having sex....it's just not passionate...This is why I'm here. Last night we had a date night...I dressed sexy...I was dripping with excitement. We were going to christen the deck....He likes doggy...he couldn't get his freaking cock in my pussy to save his life. So instead of trying oral sex...we went to the bedroom... I had bought some cock rings hoping that they would give him a harder erection. The first one was longer with nubs and support. I put whipped cream on him first and licked him clean. Then I put some warming lubricant on him where he freaked that it was burning. He went in and washed it off...in the mean time I lost it. I just felt like I keep putting in so much effort to try and please him yet there is no effort to please me. The one time that he actually tried to lick my pussy he complained, he didn't like the taste. That was it. Hasn't tried again.... During our date I tried to get him to talk dirty...try to touch like we were dating....we stopped at a pub for a drink and I stood next to him....no touching....he new I had a garter on...i expected him to rub my leg and ass to feel it...we were in a bar for god's sake. What the hell can I do to get him to walk on the wild side?
