sarafresa

hi guys! Im new around here... ive got a question and i really hope some1 can help me.. so here i go. Im not very experienced when it comes to sex (im kinda new in this stuff of sexual intercourses). My problem is that each time ive sex with my bf we get certain kind of pain (not a pleasant pain though)... Not exactly at the very beginning but maybe like 10 or 15 minutes after starting with the "friction", the action, the intercourse or whatever you wanna call it (you know what i mean right?)... it feels as if my labia area was burning hot (like when you burn your skin with oil while cooking)... its almost the same for him... he feels like his penis was burning, and not only that... sometimes he even feels that his penis' skin is being ripped :S And actually that's what happens (by the way we dont use condom), during the "in and out movement" that friction causes his skin to rip:S so obviously we have to stop right away, and instead of feeling that pleasure of satisfaction that you can see in the movies, he feels "ouch", his penis gets "scratched" (the area of the head mainly) and is in pain :S while me :S i feel guilty for doing that to him (of course i dont do that in purpose :S but it feels that way), the burning hot in my labia area doesnt last for a longtime as soon as we stop, but i get a feeling of frustration :S i feel really bad cos he feels bad because he thinks its all his fault, while i dont think its his or mine fault, maybe its not the fault of any of us,... so at the end instead of having a good time we just feel guilty, frustrated, in pain :S and desperated, and,... well he has never told me, but i think i dissapoint him talking in sexual terms :S :'( and that gets me down!!! :S :'( Looking for information about "my problem"... i got this information: "If it hurts when you have sexual intercourse it may be because there is not enough of the natural lubrication made by a girl's body when she gets sexually aroused. Quite often being tense or rushing things doesn't help, so try to relax and take your time..." that sounds like a good explanation... but i dont think we fit in that category... what i mean is that i dont think my lubrication is poor,... we even use to "joke" about it, we would say "hey you have an ocean down there" so you can have an idea of the "amount" of lubrication i get, and about being tense or rushing... hmm... thats not the case either. When we want to make love is because we both want it, not just 1, so we take our time, you know what i mean, we start slow, kissing, hugging, etc. Its a romantic moment for both of us... its not something like "ok here and now... open your legs, 1,2,3 done!" not at all... In our desperation looking for "answers" sometimes we have even thought our "sizes" have something to do, i mean, hes a very tall and big guy, while im a small, thin girl... but that doesnt mean his penis is "mega super huge", and i dont think that means my "hole" is "ultra microscopic" that his penis cant fit in it at all ... that shouldnt be a good explanation, right?... Im also pregnant now, so my bf thinks that maybe my vagina produces some kind of chemical that causes that burning sensation... but i dont think thats true cos this problem is not a "new problem", it started before i got pregnant... although i must confess it has gotten worse lately... sometimes he says that maybe i get tense cos i dont want to hurt the baby and thats why my body answers like that... the dr has said everything is ok, he has said we can have sex as many times as we want, im not worried about my baby cos i know my pregnancy has been very good, so thats not the reason either. Actually now that im pregnant ive more "cravings" for sex than before... so GRRR i dont know why our bodies are reacting like that :S :'( I dont understand whats wrong with us :S :'( Any ideas?... Do you think using extra lubrication will help? If yes... which lube can you recomend me (for vaginal sex)? Has some1 had this problem too? (if yes, how have you solved it?), why does it happen to us? :'( I want to enjoy my sexual life, and i want to give pleasure to my bf... not pain :s :'( Please help me guys!!! As you see i really need help!!! Im desperate :'(!!! Anyways thanks for reading me, and really any comments, tips, ideas will be super appreciated!!! Thanks alot!!!