Current update: After a few rough weeks, I convinced her to go with me to a counselor. I wasnt sure it was gonna be the answer,epecially since I didnt initially care for the counselor. After the second week, I changed my tune when the counselor expressed what I was feeling to a "T". Seemed like she accepted it coming from a third party. I dont know why, I had been saying the same thing for weeks but when she heard said a different way from the third party it seemed to sink in. She is the kind of person who has a hard time turning off work and projects. Through some work, we've been able to help her leave work at work and focus a bit more on us. It kinda blows being spontaneous but it is better. I've learned it is best for me to speak up and let my desires be known instead of allowing my un-met expectations become frustration and anger for me. I always remember I love the woman, and from time to time there are challenges to intimacy. Our drives still do not match and probably never will but as long as we remember to communicate to each other, we'll be ok. It is not always easy or pleasant to hear but it needs to be said.