Hey thanks for all the advise. He actually has seen a doctor many times, and been to a counselor for many sessions. He won't really talk to me about it, and even avoided sex all together for quite a while. We finally had a really good session for the first time in months over the weekend. He didn't orgasm, but at least I did He is 55 by the way, and just recently retired. I think it is a guy thing, and having the whole ED thing on top of it just put him over the top..or not as the case may be. I am definitely going to try all the things you mentioned. I am open to it all, I just haven't done it with him. Do you think watching an X movie would help get the ball rolling so to speak...?