rainman0720

Thanks to everyone for your input. Sometimes I lose sight of the fact that I view sex and emotion differently than my wife does. If I look at this from my perspective, it's perfect. But after reading your answers, I'm able to see it from other perspectives. This is one idea I think I will let die a natural death.

Everyone knows what a "fuck buddy" is. Has anyone ever heard of an "oral sex buddy"? Because of TMJ, neither my wife nor I can go down on the other. It used to be a regular part of our sex play, but now neither of us can give the other one that incredible pleasure that comes from oral sex. I've thought about each of us getting an "oral sex buddy". She can find a guy she's attracted to, and he can go down (and stay down...lol) on her as long as she wants. Once she's done, she can return the favor by giving him a nice slow handjob. And I could find someone I'm attracted to, and after she's blown me, I can use whatever means and toys she wants to give her an orgasm in return. I'm a lot more open about sex than my wife is. I have no trouble at all separating sex from emotion. I have two questions about this. One, should I bring this up to my wife? Should I tell her what I'm thinking? Two, if the answer is yes, how should I go about bringing the subject up? The last thing I want to do is make her think I'm not still sexually attracted to her; she is an absolutely great sex partner. But because of our joint TMJ, I can't give her head, and she can't give me head. I can't speak for her, but I know it's something I miss. Once in a while, I'd love nothing more than to just lay back and enjoy a blowjob. I have to believe that at times, she has the same basic thought. Should I say something, or should I let this idea just die a natural death? Thanks.