mjf954

I asked for women with a similar condition to share their experiences. Not only are you the wrong gender but you're snide comment was really inappropriate...jerk.

Howard...thank you for your reply but I don't think you really read my post or perhaps misinterpreted it. I mentioned that I already use vibrators and I already have multiple orgasms that have lasted up to 5 mins. and I don't have an arousal issue. Since learning how to have an orgasm...(and I discovered how that worked...I didn't rely on a partner to do it for me) I have spent 18 years working on the fine points. I have experimented with different types of stimulation, on different errogenous zones trying to find ALL the ways that work. I have talked to gynecologists and even a sex therapist...most of whom just shrug and tell me 'that's just the way your wired...don't complain, most women would kill for a 5 minute orgasm'. I feel totally responsible for my orgasms, but I also happen to be fortunate enough to be involved with a very loving man who takes as much pleasure in my orgasms as his own. My ONLY question was: are there other women out there like me who need BOTH clitoral and g-spot stimulation to have an orgasm. I've done internet searches and have read about 'blended orgasms' but I have yet to find any lierature specifically related to women who NEED both types of stimulation to have an orgasm.

Thanks for sharing! It was difficult for me to get off consistently in the beginning, I was in a bad marriage as well. It was much easier to coax an orgasm with toys. Eventually I got divorced and am now in a relationship with a wonderful man who takes great pleasure in giving me pleasure...and because of this, I would do *anything* for him in bed...gladly. He asked how I played with my toys to get an orgasm and I got the nerve up to show him. That's how he learned what WE need to do so we could start having orgasms together. It took a while but now I reach orgasm pretty much 95% of the time we make love. Though I wouldn't trade the intensity of the orgasms for anything, sometimes I wish they were a little easier to come by and didn't take so long to get (at least a half hour of constant stimulation). My SO doesn't complain...but even he admits that he has never come across a situation like mine before. Thanks again for sharing and BOL with your SO.

This is rather embarrassing but I was 32 before I had my first orgasm...and it happened accidentily. Every woman I've ever talked to told me I needed more clitoral stimulation, or that my partner wasn't patient enough or stimulating me right. I ran the batteries down on several vibrators, trying for that elusive 'O'. Then by accident one night, while in the middle of heavy petting, I discovered 'the secret'. I need BOTH clitoral AND G-spot stimulation, at the same time, to have an orgasm. Years of intercourse...years of clitoral stim, just left me and my partner frustrated, and feeling inadequate til now. I have since made up for lost time! The orgasms are intense, full body experiences (borderline seizures!) that come in waves and have lasted up to 5 minutes. I know I should leave well enough alone and just respect what works for my body, but I can't help shaking the feeling that there is something 'wrong' with me. I have never heard of any other woman needing both types of stimulation simultaneously. So if you're out there...could you PLEASE tell me a little bit about your situation and let me know I'm not the ONLY one.... mjf954