Chrisdot. New member today. WOW! Great site. Have read thru most of the posts - and found a few hot tips. But still at a quandary as to why I cant have a O with my man as often as Id like. He is every girls dream, patient, experimental, loving and caring, sensitive and sharing - and more. I think am relaxed enough and he is doing all the right things with his tongue and hands and spending ages. I even find it hard to come when I masturbate while he is inside me. I have a few toys and am able to have more than one orgasm on my own. Have I got serious inhibitions or something.......help. I have been going with him for 12 months now and we have been buzy bonking at every possible mo - he really turns me on and the sex is great. I have had g-spot Os and ejacculated. But not much luck with the clit? Apart from a few casual encounters.......at 45 he is my third partner.