new again

Thank you Howard, it was nice to get some male input--no pun intended--but it is funny when I re-read this. I have every intention of finding someone who cares for me. I have never been and don't ever plan on being anyone's one night stand.

I have what I call a New York Lock. I purchased it for security. You can probably get one in any decent hardware store for around ten bucks. It will have a rubber foot, an adjustable metal shaft then a rubber or hard plastic U at the top. The U goes under the door knob and then you push the foot up close to the door until it secures. But I bet one time of either your parents walking in on you in the nude would do it. So, when ever you are in your room get that way.

Glad to know I am not the only one to experience this. I wasn't sure what to do either.

Thank you Majikal & Tyger. I didn't know you could purchase variety packs. It is all about STD control for me. Pregnancy is impossible. Interesting also is I have no idea what it will be like to be with someone new. I had surgery recently due to some problems and the gyn removed a large area of scar tissue in my vaginal area, so.....I not only am I 'new again' to this dating thing but you could also say part of my body is 'new again'. Quite a bit tighter I am guessing, which can only be good right? Trust is going to be the big hold up for me--to trust someone again to be 'vulnerable', to be brave enough to put myself out there again. I would have liked to have gotten some responses from males--what their preferences are...

Hi, Single for the first time in 25 years. So much has changed in the variety of condoms available. How do you decide which one is best for you? Textured, vibrating, size, scent, taste even color? How do you know which size if you don't know who your partner is yet? Which ones are best for both partners? Which ones break easily? Which ones protect against STD's the best? Help me out here.