Well there are actually 2 people that I have chatted online (#1 I know in RL too) about it. The first guy and I are just friends at this point. (Though I could easily be his sub...we have a great friendship and a great connection to one another. I am actually hoping that the friendship changes into something more the future.) The second guy is what prompted this post because I never really thought of myself as a sub but I guess I am and guy #1 said that I can be very sub when I want to be with him. Guy #1 we have had cyber sex and last night guy #2 and I had phone sex. I know I would be totally comfortable with guy #1 in this situation. There is a trust and a connection there. #2 is possibly a little to Dom for me. I don't know if it is because we really haven't built a relationship yet so I can't submit to him as easily or what. At this point I know I would not be comfortable with him alone. Could this just be that we don't know each other well enough yet? Or are we totally mismatched? Thanks for the replys and the honesty. This situation has prompted alot of research and reading on my part about the dom/sub roles.