sexinupmywife

I think you hit the nail on the head. Presentation and honesty are both equally important. That said, I don't think letting her in on my secret would be worth losing her respect. Kind of a risky decision for me. The good news is that I don't feel like I'm going to explode if I don't let her know. I am really into her and there's an infinite number of ways we can play together. I'll make sure she knows how much I like the way she looks ... maybe, some evening with enough wine in both of us and the right circumstances I'll feel like I can tell her. It'd be interesting to hear responses from a wide range of women. I think I need more reassurance that I won't shock her to death.

OK. I am really into sex with my wife in all sorts of ways. This includes my lingerie fetish. I like seeing her in them A LOT. She doesn't know this, but I like to wear them too. When I wear her lingerie, I masturbate and fantasize about sex with her in a wide variety of "normal" ways (fellatio, cunnilingus, dom/sub, s&m). My fantasies have us both wearing her lingerie. Should I share this with her or keep this to myself? If so, how could I ever bring a topic like this up? How would most normal women react to this sort of thing? I think it would catch her off guard. I'm afraid she'd think less of me.