crazyforbond

I am in college and my boyfriend and I are both 20. We have been together for 2 and a half years and have been having sex for 2 of them. The sex? Well, it just isn't that great, but I love the guy and he is my best friend. He knows that there is a problem but doesn't like to talk about it, and when he does he gets all pouty and sad. The problem is with his penis. It is of normal size, but just doesn't function properly. Sometimes he can get it up, sometimes he can't. Sometimes when he does he either can't cum at all or cums too quickly. Sometimes when he does get it up, it goes soft. I don't think I have ever acheived orgasm. He is not that into sex unless we haven't had it for a while, then he wants it, but his penis doesn't. I want good sex so bad, but just don't want to have to go through the whole process with him. Foreplay is usually real short because he gets soft and sex doesn't last very long at all. I am usually shy about masturbating, but last night I have had enough and bought my first vibrator from tootimid. It seems like we have tried everything to make our sex life amazing, but we can't even reach "average"! I am so frusturated and I know that we are too young to be having these problems!! When we bring up that I don't orgasm, he says that it is mainly my fault because I should know my own body. I am not trying to make it a 'blame game' because I haven't done much with taking my orgasm into my owns hands, but I am now, hence the vibrator purchase. I am on the pill, sometimes we use condoms, sometimes we don't. We have tried lubricants, different positions, everything but toys because he isn't into that. It is just not working with us!!! I need some major help because sex sucks! It is just a chore and a stressful event. He gets nervous and then goes limp. I don't want to have sex with him because it is just a stressful and embarassing experience and then he starts to attack me when I don't want to have sex with him, and aaaahhh, I think it is just horrible on all accounts. Please please please please help me because I KNOW we are too young to be having these problems.