Thanks Mikayla! 1. I have used several lubes, Ky Jelly, Aloe Vera clear jell & silione jell before I stumbled upon the corn huskers lotion. It actually works best as a lube and I have had no problems with it in three months or so.....I have seen several men who have used it and none said anything about problems. Any specifics about problems you know it will cause? I really hate to give something up that works so well..... 2. As far as diameter of dildo? I have seen a variety of butt plugs with what is described as a T-base. They are pointed on the end & go up to 1 to 3 " in diameter before narrowing at the base. The T-base is not at big as the balls on my dildos. Is there any chance of losing the base? I really like, or should I say, my prostate really likes that filled up feeling, by I'd hate to getit stuck.....Any suggestions? 3. Hemroids....As I said, I have no bleeding with the protusions on the outside of my anus. There is no discoloration & no pain. I didn't make it a point to look at my anus in the morrow before now, so I really don't know if they were there before, but it looks like wrinkled skin. Any more thoughts? Thanks again for providing this forum. I will try to get her to check out your topics. Although, we have had a very active sex life for over thirty years now, and she is open to experimentation, She is sometimes reluctant to try new things.....We mostly just want to please each other....but I would like to please her evern more....Any suggestions.... Bobby