steffi1686

How long does it take for your skin to desensitize?

Yeah I just finished reading the article. I am happy to know that it will get better because I don't know how any woman can stand the itch and bumps all the time.

Thanks! That is what I thought porn stars did. I don't think I would be very comfortable letting someone other than my man see that area. I was hoping that you might be able to get a hairless look like that from shaving.

Well I just recently decided to shave. I bought the recommended coochie cream and sat in to tub for at least 15 mins before shaving. However I still got a lot of red bumpyness and itch. I was just wondering if this goes away after you have been shaving for a while. Is the skin there always that sensitive? I also wanted to know how you can get such a close shave. I still have a lot of tiny prickly stubbles that don't go away after shaving. Then I look at some porn stars and wonder how they got their pussy to look so soft and hair free. Is it just me or am I missing something? It just annoys me because I want my pussy to be smooth and nice to touch but it seems too sensitive. And touching it doesn't feel very nice especially when going against the grain.

My fiancee' love to do Role-play scenarios during phone sex. We usually draw on each other's fantasies. For example my fiancee' fantasizes about me in a lesbian encounter so I describe something like that to him while he listens and rubs himself. Or we might play dominant or submisive and use lots of toys some of which are purely imaginary. Really have fun with phone sex because it allows you to be in fantasy like situations so you can really use your imagination.

Thanks Howard my fiancee' and I are going to have to try that! Sounds like fun!

Thanks everyone for the tips! I am not sure why it matters for me to orgasm without direct clitoral stimulation. For some reason it just seems awkward to be stimulating myself that way during sex. I guess it will take some time and I was ready for that. Can anyone reccomend any good positions for this where it wouldn't be as awkward. Other than woman on top of course... Also to answer Mikayla's question it seems like we usually have to stop during sex for me to rub myself with him still inside me. For some reason his thrusting while I am rubbing myself puts me off. Maybe because there is too much stimulation at once. I feel like I might be going about this the wrong way LOL! Going along with what howard said about his wife just having to relax during sex in order to achieve orgasm, it seems really hard for me to do that. I have been working hard to just stay in the moment but for some reason there is a disconnect during sex. It is probably because I was raped when I was still a virgin. Maybe subconsciously I just disconnect in order to protect myself for that reason. I have recently told my fiance that we should do some sensate focus before sex. Hopefully that will help me get into the moment.

Going along with what howard said it would also be beneficial to talk about sex outside of the bedroom. And especially not during the act itself. This helps to keep the pressure off the both of you and keeps the conversation more casual. Also, try not to place any blame and just talk about how you are feeling. When I first brought up the fact that I wasn't satisfied to my fiance' I was pretty embarrassed but now we can openly talk about how we feel and our sex life has gotten a lot better. Just remember that you can't solve anything by not talking about it.

My fiance' and I are still pretty new to the whole sex thing and we are very open with each other about how we want to be touched ect. but I still seem to be having trouble orgasming during PV intercourse. I have no problems achieving clitoral orgasm either by oral stimilation or manual stimulation. I was wondering if there are any techniques my partner and I could use to help me achieve orgasm during sex without direct clitoral contact. -Thanks

My favorite toy is the Powerful Sparkling Vibrating Egg which I actually got for free from too timid! I like the fact that it has adjustable settings so I can start off with a tiny bit of vibe and end with a powerful vibe or switch things up to keep it interesting. I use it about once or twice a week in bed of course!