Thanks guys. My answers are two fold. Yes I am have text, email and phone sex with a friends husband but BOTH OF OUR partners know about it. We joke about sex hen all together. We all 4 joke about what we are going to do to each other but he and I are the only ones talking other then face to face. It is a JOKE and we all know NOTHING would ever come of it. My Dh and I have a great relationship and so do my friend and her Dh. None of us has a desire to go elsewhere. Our spouses reap the benefits. It gives us new ideas and opens new conversations up between all of us. The reason for my question is we were all out together one night and the topic of what is cheating came on the radio talk show we had on in the car. Alot of people consider what he and I do as cheating. We don't because there is not an emotional connection plus our spouses know what we are doing. So now what is your opnion???