cbachinger

Thank you so much for your comments. I wish to clarify something and it was actually my fault for not saying it properly. I am aware that masterbation does not cause fertility I was actually a quick student in Bio What i meant was, I do not wish my fetish hunger to interrupt in future family events or will it slowly disappear or "cool down" in time when i have one and a partner to be with? As what was mentioned, I can let my SO be aware of my fetish desires and she will probably be turned on by that My last ex actually loved it herself I think i have been somewhat convinced now (and ive been a bit stubborn to completely come to terms with it). EVERYONE, even those who we probably think dont masterbate do and yes, if there is an excess in testosterone it is punishment on myself not to release it. I now believe i have been pressured by societal belief that girls hardly need to and so think you may be another typical guy but actually they probably do it as much as you do. I am now actually feeling phsycologically more relaxed about myself Thank you. I dont have to be "cleaned" It is just an ungrasped concept and unrealised realistic nature about me for a loong time. When i answered yes to my ex about going out and sleeping with another girl, she actually reminded me of her own high sex drive and that she has been able to control it; and she doesnt like masterbating (she prefers the real thing). That actually made me feel weak and guilty inside. She has a very strong mind and i believe that is what is able to keep her urges under control. To me that also sounds like punishment.

Thank you for your eagerly waited reply! I actually wasnt even considering a fetish theme but i understand and agree with you there. But is there any "guidance" about possible excess masterbation? Simply put, masterbating even when women are able to control themselves for a good time. It sounds like a weakness - besides me being young (26 yrs) girls at my age probably dont even have to touch themselves at all, even if they are no longer virgins. My ex and i were separated for the first time for 1 1/2 month after 2 months together and many occasions engaging in intercourse and she didnt have the urge to touch herself for that whole time; and she can have a MAJOR sex drive. But i went so mad (at one time x3 daily) during that time that i gradually developed a small rash on my glans and i felt like i had a weakness in me about controlling myself. I find myself confused. Should i carry on with fetish pics and porn and masterbate everyday and still feel kinda off or "clean myself" as i dont want this to ruin possible future plans in family life as an example. But as you said, if it doesnt interrupt in life. But can it indirectly? I hope you catch my drift. OR should i just accept that i have such an interest and drives and do when my body tells me? Sounds like being a slave to your own mind. If i may also say; i also get urges to involve myself in fetish as a solo act - using a speedo. This feeling has been in my head as i had mentioned since childhood. Sounds kinda diff to what you have heard before, eh? I even bought a high-cut swimsuit from a sex shop for myself! - but i came back to realization a couple days later. This i consider to be the only major crack in my life that has occurred for how long. Other then that, i am a very respectable man and well supported and sorted out life.

This is as best in one sentence i can describe my situation. I have for a long time now (since childhood actually) been attracted to seeing bikini/panty bottoms; for the oddest reason i 'admire' the slight bulge made by the pubic hair or fleshy mons. I have the fascination of women having almost 'nothing to show' and so seem to show off a gentle mound instead. This fascination is also linked to any tight bottoms worn by women and this is what can set my hormones to make me want to masterbate. The problem is i do not want to every time i 'just feel like doing it' because of what i see or fantasize. My only remedy i seem to have is to keep myself busy at all times and so keep my mind occupied. I have guessed the rest is just having control over yourself like women can; only they are experts and i admittedly and HUGELY envy them over this!! I DID have a collection of porn and cameltoe pics for a few months but then i wanted to go through (and kinda did) a 'purification process' and also coz i was limited with space, i deleted everything. But i feel i am coming back to square one again. I am happy to masterbate if i wake up in the morning with an erection; my hormones are acting and not just my dick! I have been previously advised by Yahoo forum members to do it when i feel i want to and there is no problem with the fantasizing. I want to at least have some control as to when i am happy to do so (recall i said women are experts with controlling themselves?) I know there is no problem fantasizing (everyone does so). Advice of ANY sort welcome! Many thanks in advance.

Men are always turned on by visual attractions. One thing that makes my head spin is seeing a woman's bulge, mound, mons (or whatever other name is out there) under swimwear, tight shorts or panties. Tight jeans also get me well (but not with camel toes! just the flat look).

I walk into a room with 2 women already present and talking at a table. I join in the conversation and begin touching the one girl's thigh as i speak. She slowly gets up and pulls down my pants and as I start to undress her friend, the girl starts giving me a blowjob. After i have finished undressing her and turn around to start undressing her partner, the now naked girl in turn goes down and continues giving me a blowjob. by now i am already moaning a bit and the girls are loving it too. Then once i am finished undressing both girls, i receive a double blowjob. After a couple of minutes, two of us hit the floor and go doggy style and the girl is moaning away, making me harder every second. Afterwards, i turn my attention to the other girl and rub her clit with my cock up and down for a while and then push her knees back and down to the ground and I go deep inside her and I start to nail her straight through until she is screaming with orgasm and I am also moaning a lot. After she has come, I roll onto my back and the other girl straddles her pussy over my face and I begin eating her fleshy paradise and before long she is crying out in pleasure and screaming for a coming orgasm. Meanwhile, Im receiving a blowjob on the other end and have to flex my groin muscles a few times to stop me from cuming. Once the girl has cum, the girls swop around and I soon have the other girl screaming with pleasure and Im receiving a further blowjob from a very expeienced and excited girl. I can feel my cum boiling inside my balls. Soon I flip over, take the blowjob girl by the waist in mid air, go inside her and starting drilling her while supporting her torso in the air. She is just hanging there and screaming for more and in pleasure. I come all over them and my orgasm is immense!

Apart from focusing on her Gspot (if it DOES excite her), going down on her (which is the same as the venus butterfly technique) and lasting a long time, what way would you consider to be able to leave your lady partner panting away in complete satisfaction after you have cum yourself? Also, how can you get yourself to last long? I have recently believed that having confidence in yourself is one important key. I tried a karma sutra technique in which you count as you thrust (takes your mind off things - actually never worked for me). I also read when your body is full of supplements (similar to muscle supplements from supplement drinks) this helps increase the seratonin levels in your body, which delays orgasms in men.

I am a 26 year old guy and in the past i was trying to stop my need for masturbation every 4 days (unless having a girlfriend and we wanted some). But even if i WAS going out and for a certain 2 week period that we always had friends staying over and we had no chance, she was able to 'turn off' her sex drive or at least control it with ease but i couldnt. It made me upset that i really needed it but she had no problem; like a machine deciding to turn off or on. Is it just that guys have less control over their sex drive then girls do? In that sense, I came to respect girls a lot more! In all fairness, if I dont ejaculate within 2 weeks, i can start to get depressed and ALL i can think about is sex. But then I asked in another forum and I got told to accept the fact that i need it often and not to feel like as if im a sex crazed guy. I know that there are people out there who cant live without sex for 1 day but i guess that can be called an exception. I hope all is clear; if you need more insight, let me no. I look forward to ANY advice!! :)