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First, thank you for your replies and what not. Secondly, to update you all, I have talked with my fiance, and have given a lot of thought to many different things. When talking to her, a lot of her apprehension is the result of her inexperience, and her fear of not being able to stop. She was also raised not to really talk about sexual things, and the communication and comfort of talking about such things is not there. I am currently in school studying medicine, and have recently been trying to discuss some of the anatomy and what not with her so that she first feels more comfortable talking about sexual things. She has seemed receptive to that since it's not just sitting down talking about sex and blowjobs, but more of an educational discussion. After the initial posting I did some thinking and have realized that she has made some huge steps in the direction of being more sexual. From doing nothing but kissing a guy for 20 years, and then working up to handjobs, something that she knew nothing about (which can be frightening --doing something without any knowledge of it). With that, I feel better that she is willing to take steps towards being more sexual, but i need to continue to remind myself that those steps need to be taken at her own pace, no matter how slow that may be. It's just a matter of time when she'll be comfortable with me to explore like I would wish to do. To address some of the issues that you guys brought up...Howard, I do believe that counseling is something that could be beneficial in the future, and studying medicine, I am a firm believer in the success of counseling. In response to the girls comments about her truly orgasming in the way that I described...I was almost completely confident that she never faked it because I do look for the signs of orgasms...nipples hardening, face flushing, breathing (which can be faked), and other actions like a gradual climax, and talking a dirtier and telling me what to do and what feels good as she climaxes. In addition, when talking recently about some of these things, I did directly ask her if she ever faked an orgasm with me, and she said no. Once again, thank you for your willingness to help! -B

I had a buddy and his wife wasn't too fond of the taste of his cum, and he found some where that ingesting large amounts of vitamin C makes cum taste sweeter. I normally drink a lot of orange juice, and therefore I really don't know the difference of how it tastes without ingestion of a lot of vitamin C, but according to him and his wife, it really works. -B

So here's the problem: I want to continue to explore new things with my girlfriend of 2 years, and soon to be fiancee, but she is scared and uncomfortable with trying new things. Here's the story: I am the first guy that she has been with in any sexual way, other than kissing other guys that she dated. Basically, all we do is "dry hump" and she gives me hand jobs. I try to rub her clitoris with my hand and after a minute or less she grabs it and pulls it away. She says she just feels uncomfortable, so we do the same-old dry hump, which makes her orgasm every time. We are waiting until marriage to have sex and take much pride in that, but I'm afraid that if we don't work up to it, that when our wedding night comes she might feel uncomfortable being that sexual with me and we won't make love. She's asked if i want a blow-job and i refuse, which may sound retarded, but i don't want to take that next step until she is more comfortable with me touching her. The question: How can I make her more comfortable so that we can progress in our relationship and try fun, new things?

I have definitely participated in a little cybering, and found it quite titilizing!!! Has anyone ever done a threesome cyber? I think that would be fun!!!

So, I'm kind of a closet freak when it comes to sexuality. It's something I love to do, talk about, think about, and read about, but it's something that I have always kept to myself. Most people don't think of me in that way, but that's fine. I guess it makes it a bit more exciting since people don't think I should be so sexual...I don't know. Drop me a line, I am usually quiet until someone sparks a flame and then I could probably talk for hours. -B