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Well...finally better but, wow! It definitely broke the skin somehow as when I pulled the hood back a bit and touched my clit with a tissue, there was blood on the tissue. Yeah...I'm at a loss. When I was experimenting, it didn't feel bad and didn't feel good. I just knew there was suction on my clit. Oh well! I guess I'll chalk this up to experience and move on to the next new toy!

Yes, it was definitely over my clit. Definitely not my period. Yeah, ow... I used the release valve after only about 5 seconds or so. The bleeding was definitely coming from the clitoris...I could pull back the hood and see the blood around my clit. I thought I had researched these and their use properly...obviously I've done something wrong...just not sure what...and not sure how long it will take to heal. I'd like to resume sex with hubby but, at this point, it's too painful.

Ok, so for those of you with more experience with clit pumps than me...please...enlighten me.... I bought a clit pump and tried it. Not a pleasant experience. I felt like I had it positioned correctly. I only did like "half" a pump and only left it on for about 5 seconds...as I wasn't really feeling anything pleasant and decided perhaps I had something wrong. I released the suction and, well, to my dismay, found my clit bleeding and VERY painful. So...what did I do wrong? How long will this take to heal? Any words of wisdom? Thanks!

Thanks Ya'll. I'm still unsure of the safest way to use nipple play in mine and my husband's play time. I mean...when a man wears a c-ring, it's recommended that he keep it on no longer than 20 minutes...right? Wouldn't there be some sort of recommendation for women (or men for that matter) using nipple clips/clamps?? It's the same principle, isn't it?? Restricting blood flow to a part of the body...right? What is "safe"?? Can anyone help me answer this question so I can play safely??

I'm curious if there is a safe way to engage in nipple play. My husband and I have just started to dabble in it and I really enjoy the sensations that a firm pinch or tug can give. I'm interested in exploring nipple clamps but am concerned about the proper use of them. I can imagine that damage can be caused if they are used improperly...yes? How long should the clamps be left on? What is a safe limit? Thanks!!

Thanks for having this forum. I need a place to ask this question and this place looks like the right one!! I am a 35 year old woman who is happily married to a wonderful man. We will celebrate our 7th anniversary tomorrow. I have 3 biological children and have had a problem for quite some time now. Any and all advice will be welcomed!! How can I put this?? I have a hard time achieving orgasm and get very discouraged with it. I love my husband and love being with him. I just have the hardest time reaching the big "O". We have toys and love to play. We both enjoy that very much. However, I have found that it gets frustrating for both of us b/c it takes almost an hour for me to achieve orgasm no matter what the means (toys, intercourse, clit stimulation, and any combination of the above and more). The only way I'm able to reach an orgasm quicker is to go on a sexual hiatus. I have to go without sex for WEEKS at a time. This greatly frustrates my husband but it's the only way I can physically get "in the mood". Ok...so, what's wrong with me? I've tried everything I can think of and nothing seems to work. Here's a bit of background so any of you with ideas don't cover ground I've already covered...I am not on any medications, I do not take hormonal BC (I'm using an IUD), there is no risk (or very low risk) of getting pregnant (therefore, I don't think apprehension about pregnancy is the issue). Any thoughts that I haven't covered??? Thanks in advance!!

Hi. I'm new to this forum. I am 35 years old and have been married to a wonderful man for 7 years. We have 4 children...one from his first marriage and then 3 together. I'm pretty shy about discussing sexual things so...be gentle!! LOL!!