Susan Sumner

He probably isn't as young as you are assuming. I like older guys - he's in his mid 30's. As far as getting him to talk, I will try the neutral ground out somewhere, because in the apartment just isn't working. To get him to talk at all means I often need to sit on his lap so he can't turn back to the computer. Then he complains because it's harder for him to read blogs, posts, e-mail, whatever. My getting pissed off over this doesn't help matters either, because I cry when I'm pissed. And the frustration is making irritated, so I'm becoming snappish. Part of the problem is I am his first gf in 6 years. I expected problems for awhile - he really didn't know how to treat an SO anymore. You would think a year or so would have fixed that. We have several of the same interests and several of the same friends and aquaintances. When another guy makes a move on me, he gets a little jealous (nothing overbearing, but it's nice to know he's there). We have been sleeping in the same bed for over a year and instead of escalating, the foreplay is going down the drain. I love snuggling, and he's great for that, but I'm sorry, I need more.

I'm new here, thought I would make my first post. My SO and I have been together for 17 months now. Neither of us like to start relationships with sex, so we were OK there. After a month or so, we started fooling around, but he made a point to say that 1.) he doesn't believe in "casual" sex and 2.) He takes a long time to get off, so he doesn't like to do anything if he has work in the morning (he gets up really early). This is fine, I can settle for that... but it has been 17 months now! I don't qualify as a "casual" encounter, there have been plenty of nights when he hasn't had to get up early, and, frankly, I have a high libido! B.O.B. just isn't doing it anymore. It has been 3 months at least since he has touched me without going through clothing. The most he has done is get me hot and bothered, maybe gotten me off a couple times with his hand, then rolled over and gone to sleep. I'm sorry, this is not enough. He got angry when he thought I had slept with someone else behind his back, yet he still won't do it. He plays on his computer ALL the time, surfing and whatnot. I woke up at 5 am last weekend and caught him surfing porn and masturbating. I don't care if he likes to look at it... but look at me too! What kind of worried me was that all the women in the porn were thinner and had much smaller breasts than me. I'm sorry, but my figure can't change that much, and it shouldn't have to. Does anyone have any suggestions? Help! I'm frustrated!