frustratedashell

i am at my absolute wits end... my husband thinks that sex is not important and thinks that i am a sex addict cuz i want to have sex with him on a regular basis... i'll start from the beginning... me and my hubby have been together 5 years.. married for 3... we have a great relatinship.. we are best friends.. have trust and honesty and open communication!!! ... we have been thru alot together and have always stood by eachother no matter wat.. but sex is a real problem... we spend alot of our spare time together our sex life has been a problem since abt 9 months into our relationship... when we have sex if is so so good.. but to get him to even have sex is a major drama and i have to set the perfect day and sometimes even that doesnt work.. we have talked and talked and talked abt it so many times.. and have had regular sex for a little while and then back to normal.. where it can be anywhere from 2 weeks to a month between sexing.. and it is just too much for me.. i am 23 and he is 33... i just feel like screaming.. he comes up with all sorts of excuses.. and i know he is not cheating .. he just doesnt think it is important at all... he is studying at the moment and we are worried abt money.. yes ok stress is a factor in no sexual desire but seriously.. the amount of excuses he has come up with in the last 4 years is ridiculous.. and i can give u a list of them if it will help... he thinks i talk abt sex too much and i probably do but i am so fucking horney all the time and i cant do anything abt it.. i can do it myself .. but u can do so much before u need a man.. and i dont want just any man .. i want him!!!... i have asked him just 2 - 3 times a week would be fine.. but he says yes he would like that too but that he has other priorities that he is gonna deal with first.. etc etc!!.. i have tried everything... please help me