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O.K. I do have an issue that I need help with, here goes. I am in a relationship, we started out just dating and the sex was great. He would come home from work then come over to see me before I left for work and we would usually have sex. He would stay at my place for the night and when I came home in the morning we would have sex again before he had to go. It was wonderful. Then he moved in and for the first few weeks we would still have frequent sex. Then things started to back off some to almost non-exsistant sex. He would tell me that there is more to a relationship than just sex. I agree with this but I think sex needs to be a part of a relationship and he just doesn't get it. We have been together now for 2 1/2 years and the relationship is great, he treats me very well, but. . . still very infrequent in the sex department. I keep telling him that I want more sex and he keeps pushing further and further away. So, then I will give up for a week or two, won't touch him when he comes to bed, just give him a kiss and roll over to go to sleep and then he gets angry with me and wants to know why I am angry and being this way. He tells me he doesn't like sex all that much, he's very tired (he does work 10-12 hours a day 6 days a week), and that he just wants to sleep. I am trying to be patient, find alternative ways to please myself without cheating, but it's not as fun as doing it with a partner. When we do have sex, the sex is great, it's just not often enough. I was starting to think that he was seeing someone else but, when he brings home his checks, they reflect the hours he is away so I know that is not the case. I was in a relationship for 22 years, married 19 of those years prior to this. The relationship became abusive so I got out. I met a few others guys, but turned out that they just wanted sex and they were cheating on their other half, don't want that. Then I met the guy I am with right now and like I said, he is very good to me and that is hard to find now days - I see/hear what others around me put up with. I recently lost my job and currently do not work and he is taking care of me without me asking for help so I know he does care and does love me. In fact, he suggested I quit my job and look for a 1st shift job (was working 3rd shift) just so we could be together at night and we could be on the same schedule. Now, I just want to figure out how to spice things up in the bedroom without ruining my relationship with him. Does anyone have any suggestions?

Hi, just wanted to introduce myself. I am new to this, read a few posts and decided to join. I really don't know what to say, I am a little scared and shy so I will leave it up to you. What questions do you have for me? Send me something to get me going. Thanks. Bones