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Many churches and Planned Parenthood clinics have free or low cost Marriage Counselors. I have used the one at the Planned Parenthood clinic that used be in my area. They are good counselors and can help in all areas of martial issues.
I've done my research and unfortunately could not find any.
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Woopady do! Be careful not to offend anyone by asking about the sexiest nationallity!~
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Well hormone levels and meds can make you more more irritable, and the only way you are going to be able to get your partner to talk about it without being irritated is if they want to talk about it.
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-get a marriage counselor (Howard’s' favorite)
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Wow, I have many more years to go!
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Thanks, Howard for a long and very informative post.
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Jenny007,
No one is suggesting that marriage counselors are miracle workers. Miracles come from taking and making something from nothing. A marriage counselor takes two parties who love each other and want to be together and helps them to learn to talk to each other and shows them ways to reconnect. There is a huge difference. The thing is... both parties have to want to change the way things are otherwise it will never work. I can see the frustration in your posts thus far and it seems to me that your husband has no idea what he has in front of him. You have to ask yourself if he even wants to change and you might have to be the one to take the big step and do something about it. Is a marriage counselor absolutely necessary? Maybe not. My wife and I went through some pretty rocky times where our sexual contact would happen once every 3-6 months. In our case, though, we were best friends first. Eventually we started treating each other like friends again instead of trying to fit each other into our mind's version of what a spouse should be. When we did that, we started talking again, started "dating" again (even though we were already married), and eventually our relationship took off in a better direction and here we are today. No matter how you go, it takes a lot of work and both parties to the relationship want to have to commit, otherwise you aren't married, you're roommates.
Thurisas.
There is not much new to what you are saying and I totally agree with it. It goes without saying that it takes both partners to work things out. I tried hard, and gave up after being 'dumped' and shamed by my husband when I was trying. That is where the frustration comes from.
"Eventually we started treating each other like friends again instead of trying to fit each other into our mind's version of what a spouse should be. When we did that, we started talking again" What do you talk about? When we tried to talk, he poured all his long-time grudges and frustration out on me. Those instances happened many years ago and were discussed and apologized for previously. It turned out that he never really forgave me when I asked him to, he never let things go. Honestly, his tactic looks like an excuse to avoid a deep conversation and the unpleasant fact that he does not attempt to find me sexually attractive anymore. He got lazy and comfortable with the life as it is.
You said it right, we are roommates and friends now trying to keep it quite
By the way, the friend with benefits is too old to have any claims to being something else. And yes, he'll be fine being just a friend or a nobody.
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Have you or anyone here ever been to a counselor?
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I am srry to hear this, Wishful.
He is making all the movies and behavior of a person who is no longer in love with you. Get to a marriage counselor, quick. Life is too short to put up with that kind of treatment. If he doesn't want to change, leave!
Howard
Well, everyone thinks a marriage counselor is a magician. I seriously doubt that.
At least you still some sort of sexual relationship with your hubby. I have not had sex with mine for 1 fricking year!
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that sucks!
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That's what I am taking about! A 60 year-old politically correct attorney will straighten you up if you curved away or thought different about marriage counselors and magic pills