Thank you all for your input- I really do appreciate it. I will try to respond to all of your ideas in one post. Just to be clear,, we do have conversations outside of the bedroom and have no trouble discussing sex. I can have multiple clitoral orgasms, but he stops after the first and is ready to move on. We have 2 vibes that we play with freely and I ordered a third today. I have guided his hand and let him know softer, to the left, etc.... just as he has let me know what he likes. I have also touched and rubbed to show him what I like while he watched. I compliment his size, etc., but it's not a running comentary- more of a playful comment made on occasion. I have sat on the sofa holding his hand to tell him exactly what I like and need. Not a lecture or list of his shortcomings, but a conversation. (Do you like it when I do _______.....because I sure like it when you do_____... What can I do to make giving me oral more enjoyable for you... I've shown him the articles that say how many women climax through clitoral stimulation and not si. I have told him of my research to find more ways to pleasure him- giving him the names of the sites I've visited. I mentioned all of the topics that are discussed. I know men generally aren't into all the talking, so the conversations are always short and to the point. I guess I was expecting too much for him to think, "wow, I've been getting some really amazing pleasure lately, maybe I could find something out there I could use to rock her world." I have no problem rubbing my clit during intercourse,, and we have used a vibe for that purpose. I truly enjoy si and I'm not hung up on my lack of ability to climax during it. I am open to and enjoy many different positions. I ride him either positioned so that we can look at each other, or so that my back is to him. Missionary and doggie style are wonderful as is standing bent over anywhere (especially in front of a mirror). When I am pleasuring him, I smile, say mmmmmmm, and let him know that I am enjoying what I am doing. My issue is that I just don't feel important to him. I'm so disappointed in him that he's being so selfish. He seems more concerned about his own enjoyment. When he does break down and give me oral, it's obvious to me that he is not enjoying it and I can't help but feel hurt and rejected. He knows he has the ability to give me incredible orgasms if he wants either through oral or manual clitoral stim., or fingering my "g" spot, I had hoped that by doing what I could to make him feel good, that after a while, he would want to do the same for me. I didn't want to whine or beat him over the head- and thought leading by example would be a more positive way to help him want to pleasure me. I will definately look at the articles again and print off any that might help. I thought I would roll the one about cunninglingus in a tube and tie it with a satin ribbon, and put on a tag something to the effect of, "got so hot reading this that I couldn't finish it- would you finish it for me and show me what I missed? I'd be soooo appreciative!" or "I think that if you did this to me, I would be so overcome with pleasure that I couldn't wait to get my lips on you!" or something like that. Something light hearted and fun so that hopefully he would be more open to it and not see it as criticism, but power- the power of information. Hopefully the article will help him understand what I have not been able to get across to him. I dream of asexual experience where my partner is happy to take his time and really cares about my pleasure. I will do my homework over the weekend and hopefully have happy news to report. Thanks again everyone!