creammeister

All the suggestions about "Just do it", and not have her orgasm, and different times of day are very good indeed. In fact, I have tried all of them! The issue I am trying to resolve is "WHY?" Why do I get so excited with the thought and even the memory of previous times I at her creampie, but I can't feel ANY excitement at the idea immediately after I cum? It's maddening! I've rolled my wife over and "just did it" a couple of times - mostly so I wouldn't lose my self-respect. The idea of an afternoon creampie is extremely appealing because I get to see it! It sure beats any pictures online! I've even had my wife postpone her own pleasure so she would really want me to finish her off. All these ideas are great. While eating her, I have no enthusiasm and no interest. Later, while recalling the action, I am extremely aroused by the memory. I just can't get myself past whatever block happens as soon as I cum. I can be all ready and willing to dive right in while I'm inside my wife. Once I cum, it's the last thing in the world I want. It's not just about being "done". I just lose all interest. It's bizarre because it's my most favorite fantasy, too. I just don't understand it - and that's what's driving me crazy.

My wife can also squeeze me out - but it usually adds to her argasmic release - especially when I reenter her. One thing you might have your husband try is changing positions a bit. If he's on top, perhaps he can hold your legs up higher to get better leverage and access. I hold my wife's ankles at about my shoulder level and "steer". When she starts pushing me in this position, I rock her back a little which allows me to stay inside her through her "very energetic" orgasms. When she is on top of me, she just pushes down harder on me to keep from squeezing me out. She can sit up straight which forces her pelvis against mine - causing even deeper penetration against her clinching muscles. Again, that's just a rocking motion that grinds our pelvis bones together. It's all about leverage. I try and pace myself (and my excitement levels) to where I can maintain a strong enough erection to offer resistance to her muscles. Sometimes, the squeezing pushes me over the edge which only serves to intensify her orgasm even more!

I also had my wife slide up me and force me like you suggest. Too many times, my body language would let her know I was truly "done" and she wouldn't push me. Later on, when we would talk about it, I let her know I want the memory, but I am just not interested in doing it at the time. This is the problem for us. It's not a turn-on to her, so she's not really motivated to do it. I'm only interested in it when I'm excited. Neither of us pushes hard enough when the moment comes (so to speak). She has done it a few times. I've heard how so many women find it really hot to have this done. She just doesn't find it exciting and would rather be finished. If she was into it more, I'd be more willing to please her. Since it's my fantasy, I can't get beyond what you describe as "what would others think of me". It's more about what >I< think about me - when I'm not in a sexual mood. If my wife wanted it, I could justify it by telling myself it is something I do for her. Since she's not into it, I have to figure out how to either release this fantasy, or overcome my inhibitions. It's been about four years now - and neither has happened. In that time, I've probably licked her a dozen or more times. Usually, it's when she has some wine or something that will give her the extra push to cater to my fantasy. We've tried stories, pictures, video, discussions. Nothing seems to get her interested in this - although all of the above makes me that much more excited about the idea - until the moment I orgasm. It's maddening!

I. too, have been struggling with the exact same situation. It's like I am two different people. One during the excitement prior to orgasm and the other that is immediately turned off by the idea as soon as I've had an orgasm. My wife, also, isn't that dominant. For some time, she would ask me to clean her up (knowing that is was my fantasy) and I would half-heartedly lick a little here and there. Then we'd be done. Since she's sort of self conscious about receiving oral sex, she doesn't get a great deal out of it. We went about a year before she finally learned that I hadn't ever really "eaten" any - just licked it some. Since it is "my" fantasy, not hers, she never really pushes me into it. One of my most erotic memories is when I shot on her stomache and she had me eat a big glob off her belly. She watched me do it - and it was the first time I actually ate some. To this day, that memory still arouses me even though I have since eaten other loads. I can't figure out why I am so schizophrenic about this! When we are making love, the idea drives me crazy with desire. As soon as I start to orgasm, I turn off completely to the idea. I have no idea how to get over this hump. Once the switch occurs, I am not interested at all until I get excited again. Since I am usually so focused on pleasing my wife first, she is ready to be finished as soon as I orgasm. We often joke that we wish we could actually have a quickie. I just grew up thinking it was always better to give pleasure, so we go for an hour or so until I know she's had enough. Since intimate moments are at a premium, there's always something pulling at us - kids, sleep, work, etc. Once I've had an orgasm, we are both ready to be done so going for "round two" is rarely an option. Anyway, to the original poster, I completely understand. To everyone else, I agree with you all, too! I just can't get my post-orgasmic self to think like that. Like the original poster, I thought that just a couple of times of doing it would get me over it. That hasn't happened. I've done it much more than a few times and I'm still facing the same issue. I enjoy the memory but am not into the action at the time. I'd be interested to hear from others who felt similarly but are further down the road than I am. Heck, it's just a little reassuring to know I'm not the only one feeling this way.