I will explain in more detail. When we are having intercourse I am vaginally pushing him out and sometimes he cannot push himself back in or he can but I end up pushing him back out over and over again. As far as foreplay and having more orgasms first, the more orgasms I have the worse it gets, as if my vagina stays tight, or maybe when you describe locked on to your penis, that is when I end up pushing him out and I do not know how to not do that, nor do I know how to control my muscles for this not to happen. We do foreplay and I squirt on average 5 times or more, about every two minutes, but it seems the more I squirt the worse I am tight or something. Possibly, when I was pregnant with my first child, my doctor said that I have very strong muscles and that giving birth will go very fast. I have had three children and gave birth in less than an hour. When it was time to push, I only had to push three times with first one and twice with the other two and they were born. nOne of my doctors made it to the hospital quick enough and I was stuck with a doctor I did not know. My hypothesis is two things, I have strong muscles naturally, and the second is, whatever the kegel exercise effects women have done, that maybe , because I have never done kegels it, is not something I learned how to do, that I do not know how to control in anyway. We have foreplayed so I can orgasm-squirt, and even after I end up pushing him out, he will just rub his penis fast up and down my clitt and I squirt, in hopes that eventually I will be so worn out that maybe to the point I cannot squirt anymore, and not be able to orgasm so he can be inside me, but no matter how long we are having sex I have yet to stop squirting, and I become even tighter to where he cannot even insert his penis, so most of time at that point, he will eventually masturbate and cumm on me, or I finish him off. I have even become so frustrated I ask for him to anally , because I will give up and I do like that too. We do all kinds of different positions. I like variety and so does he, but being in any position does not make a difference. The same thing will happen. We have at times, skipped foreplay and if we just have quickies and I mean really quick it seems to be more sucessful, but we do not want to only be loving each other for 5 minutes or less and only one orgasm together every time we make love. Does that make more sense, and enough detail. If not reply with whatever you do not understand, or what more information is needed. Can you help me or have suggestions. I really do not know what I am doing , but it happens naturally. Is there anyway I can learn to not do this, and if there is how? I also cannot control having to not orgasm. My boyfriend says it's ok. i am always apologizing and I want it to be intimate. To me quickies, I am only out to get off not make love, so it really bothers me and I love him. He is also the first, I have ever squirted. I have not loved someone the way I love him. He is the first man I have ever trusted enough that I am not out to get off, I am making love. ---And no I cannot just, excuse my expression just fuck him like I have with my other sexual partners. I cannot control that when it comes to him, because I love him 100% and then some. Please help me, cleopatra