Thanks Mikayla, and everyone else. To answer your questions: Are you having sex more often than that or less? Normally, its about once a week (which is not enough for me, but i just deal with it) Right now, its been almost a MONTH! Ive stopped initiating although I will do little things like send him dirty text messages, wear semi-see through tops with no bra at home, get extra close, etc. hoping it will start something, but it doesnt. Ive done everything but actually throw myself at him. IF he has ever shown any signs of ED before - he may have performance anxiety issues He has NEVER had any problems with ED before. He thought it was 'pushy' or 'rude' to bring up sex all the time He has mentioned feeling this way before, and I have told him several times that it is what I WANT is for him to be more affressive, but it never happens. How did you get your man to be more of an initiator?? what does it matter WHO initiates it? TO me, it DOES matter. It probably shouldnt, but it does. It makes me feel like he is only going along with it because he feels like he has to or something. It's been very hurtful to my self confidence to the point where I feel horribly unattractive to him a lot of the time. Thanks everyone for your advice. I appreciate your help. I have a feeling that its just going to be one of those things I may never be able to fix. I cant think of any real REASONS his drive is so low. I guess it just IS.