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Thank you. I really like coming on TT and reading other opinions. It helps open my eyes a bit. This article in particular has helped me move things along.

I dont post too much. But this thread really spoke to me. I emailed my friend a link to it b/c it is often one of our conversations. She said it was written for me. I voted that life was too short. Wish I could take my own advice... I dont think staying married in a bad (or even not stellar) relationship does anyone a good service. Kids learn from the people they are around. Whether its abuse or just not receiving the affection and love they deserve. Not to say that trying to work it out isnt good, but again, you have to know when to go.

My hubby snores something awful! Ive done the all of it. Kicking, pinching, earplugs, he did the sleep apnea tests at the hospital and was told to lose 20 lbs (he did b/c of dental issues, didnt help). I use sleep cds that are nature sounds like ocean, waterfall, rain and thunder. I still here him snore sometimes, but not as bad as without it. One thing that I notice with him is that he really doesnt snore when he doesnt drink. But thats another issue. I think that its a good idea to get the sleep test thing.

They dont happen all the time (maybe a few times total). Ive never had a "null" O by myself. Usually they build and finish, and I can choose to continue to another or not. I just thought it was weird to have this go go go feeling. I was very wet, though I dont know if I squirted. I just read Mikalas artical the other day. Im thinking of sending it to hubby, so he knows what I have planned.

What does it mean when they build and build then just stay at a high level for a long time? It feels like I could go on forever. It feels great, but never really *explodes* (for lack of better description). Last night I was masturbating for hubby, and had this happen, its not the first time. When I quit because I felt like I couldn't handle it any more, he asked if I came. I said "sure" . I certainly wasn't disappointed, but was left wondering if there might be more to it? Has anyone else experienced this?

You are totally right.

I still am truly shocked. It does show that he some kind of desire for us to work through our issues. Where as before I didnt see any hope. I hope your wife sees that there is good stuff on here, and realizes that is for both of you. And I will stop teasing him, its kinda our nature, we tease and joke with eachother. My snarky side does comes out now and then. No worries.

I think I just dont know how to communicate with him. (while sending the link to here helped, I dont know that all our issues can be fixed that way.) I see the way both of our parents are together and I have a hard time picturing life like that. Ugh, the weight is an issue for me too. (But I dont have any kids to blame it on.) Im working on it though. Armywife, it so cool that you are learning to strip for him.

So I sent hubby a link to the article submissions. He actually read it!! *shocked* And...he actually quoted some of it! *still shocked*. This is the most reaction I have ever gotten. Thats not to say that everything is peachy keen, but he is making an effort which is nice. Somehow the article is what he needed. It wont solve all our problems, but may help us connect a little more. It is (I think) hardest to talk to your partner b/c it may come off as nagging/complaining. (can you sense personal experience?)

Thank you for all the replies. Its always nice to know that Im not the only one who has had to deal with stuff like this. I could not tell you how many times I have seduced him, its the only way I get any . I do believe that he has some depression issues. As I thought about my first post I began to remember my feelings of being the only one working on our marriage. We regularly go out to dinner, and eat together at home, though they aren't really dates. We don't have kids so it isn't like we have to find time to be together. Our sex life was very full when we first met, and continued for several years. Then it started to deplete. Now we are averaging about once a month (ouch). I really have no idea if he masturbates. He certainly doesn't last as long as he use to. I tease him all the time about turning down sex. I ask "when you were 17 would you have turned it down?" Yeah, no. It just seems like he has no passion or desire to make things better. Off to read more articles...

First off Id like to say how great this site is. Thank you. Now to my issue. My husband and I have been together for 13 years. We love each other, and were "in love" at one time. But now I feel more like a roommate. We sleep in the same bed, but rarely have sex. I would love to have sex more often. It is one of the things I really miss. There are so many things that just seem amiss in our relationship. I complain about being lonely and needing affection, and he complains of me being in his space all the time (among other things). When I talk to him about needing things to change I get a lot of "yeah, we need to work on that". My close friend thinks I deserve better. I love him too much to just leave. I don't want to hurt him, but in the process I feel I am hurting myself. How do you decide when to be true to yourself? How does he not feel any of this? I am really confused.