MILF2006

I'm new here, (my husband actually is looking at toys on this site right now!) and in need of some advice. I'm kind of timid when it comes to publicly speaking of my sex life, but I've got to do something. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, and have 2 kids. We've been through a lot in the past 2 years, including loosing our oldest son. (He was 7 1/2 months old when he died.) I won't go into detail, but our sex life sucks. It used to be amazing, but along came marriage and stress, and suddenly I have NO interest in sex anymore. Well, sometimes I do, but mostly I'm too tired to even think about it. He's amazing in bed, and we have great chemistry, but I can't seem to get over this mental block, and really have an earth shattering orgasm. I read about women having multiple orgasms, and I WANT THAT. How can I get over this mental crap and really get down to business!!?? Ironic thing, is I am constantly having what I guess I would call the equivalent of the "female wet dream" and during those dreams, the orgasms are GREAT. We use toys, and all kinds of fun stuff, and are contemplating a threesome. HELP!