SilverStiletto07

To Nuffsaid and Howard: I have to say I am nervous after reading your posts. I'm new at all of this stuff, and I had no idea the depth and energy that could go into lovemaking. It makes me a bit nervous about it all, and it feels a little overwhelming! I have never had sex yet, because I am kinda conservative in that I don't want to have sex until I am in a serious relationship and can trust the man I'm with. And, since I have never had any serious relationships, that has not happened yet until recently. I am with this amazing man, and I know that it won't be too long before we finally have sex. We have already been almost naked with each other and have used our hands on each other and have made each other orgasm that way, and just recently, I gave him a blowjob- my first blowjob ever! And, it was incredible. I never knew I would enjoy that experience so much, and I didn't realize how soft the penis is (as I have very little experience with them. ) Anyway, it was over in like, 2 minutes because it was our first time doing anything oral and I had been teasing him about what I wanted to do to his penis for a few days and there was just so much anticipation- you understand, right? In fact, I'm really glad it went down that fast because I really did not know what I was doing and I had told him that and I told him that I needed a little guidance. I took some initiative, becuase if there's one thing I do know how to do, it is that I know how to get him hard, I just wasn't sure as to how to get him off. So, I did what I felt to be "natural" and invited his input durinig the whole thing and it was amazing! Anyway, the point is that I realize it won't always be this easy, and I hope to take some of your advice and take the effort to build the anticipation as time goes on, but what I am nervous about is how will I be able to read his body? I cannot tell what feels good on him and what doesn't. Is that something you learn over time as you get to know one another? I really want to be a good lover to him, because he is such an incredible person and I want sexual pleasure to be a gift to him. But in reading your post, it just seemed to be such a natural flow of events, and I feel like I could never be that smooth! Ah! Help! Also, that night after my first time going down on him, he expressed a strong desire to reciprocate the favor, however he is always really careful about not pushing me into doing something I do not want to do. The thing is that I am really self-conscious about my body. I know he cares for me, and after reading your story, Nuffsaid, it makes me want to allow him to do it all the more! But, I just don't think I'll be able to enjoy it because I'm so self-conscious. How do I get over that?? Have either of you had that problem before? I mean, obviously it's going to be harder given that this is my first time with oral sex, but I would like advice on how to get past that if you have it. Finally, I just want to say thanks for sharing your advice! It is nice to read some sex advice that is... holistic? It feels like everything is so "body only," if you know what i mean, and doesn't seem to incorporate a person's soul and personality, which is the bulk of Justin's and my relationship. We have a connection that is more than just physical, and he is the onlly guy I've experience it with so far. And, once I introduce this type of lovemaking to him (once we actually MAKE love!), I'm sure he'll jump on board with it, as I know him enough to know that he would be totally into this stuff. I was wondering, do you have any books that you would suggest to us that we could read as a couple that would help with technique? I really know nothing about this! Oh, and p.s. Justin is like I in that he hasn't slept with many people outside the two long-term relationships that he has had, and from what I can gather, his sex life in those two relationships was not all that good. He had told me before I went down on him that he wasn't keen on getting blow jobs because he had never experienced a good one. After reading this post, this motivates me to make it REALLY good for him!!! Thanks! Andie