keya

thank you, yesterday went great. For me anyways. The bully did come back to work but said nothing to me. I thought it was kind of funny she is a control freak and yesterday she had no control over me. My other co workers were back to treating me as normal. thank god! I also talked to my boss again to see if everything was ok with me job wise and all. He told me I was very professional in the meeting and I had nothing to worry about. He went on to say she is very close to losing her job and he does not want me to leave over this. That made me feel good. Today will be hard as we are to work on a project together. Don't know how we will do this with her not speaking to me keya

Hi, I could really use some advice. I'm so upset about this.I know that this is not a sex question and my first post. what a was to introduce myself. I lurk here alot and have come to respect all of you. You give good advice and are not afraid to say what you think.I have not slept much the last few days worrying about this. I sound like such a wimp but the truth is I'm battling depression.I first wrote this yesterday. This is more about a co worker then a friend.We work in a small office there are only ten of us working together. One of my co workers is what I would call a bully. Everything has to be her way and I mean Everything.Sometimes she is the sweetest person in the world but then she can turn on you at anytime. If she's in a bad mood she takes it out on everyone. Monday morning she was in such a mood. yelled at me and two other co workers for no reason. She was acting very out of control.throwing and banging things around. Our boss doesn't have control of the office she does.Anyways I didn't say anything on monday because I was just so mad and she ended up leaving early. When I got to work on Tuesday she was in the same mood (her best friend works in the same office and I let her know that I had had enough that I was not just going to let this pass her friend actually wanted me to say something. She was all for me confronting her)I believe her friend told her what I said because on Tuesday the bully was in my area of the office,at my desk doing my work. At that point I when to the boss told him what was going on that I was upset and just tired of all of this. We all sat down to talk (me, The bully and our boss) I let her know that she was very unprofessional and that if anyone had entered the office while she was having her fit we would have lost business. That they would have been shocked. I tried to stay calm but we ended up yelling at each other I kind of lost it and told her how I really feel about her. she left soon after because she was so upset. That day a few of our co workers told me they were glad I stood up to her. That it was about time someone did. Her best friend even told me this.Before I left for the day my boss told me not to worry about her. That I'm a good worker and that if she doesn't change her ways she will be out of there. She was gone again today. Her best friend let everyone know that she was not feeling well. Also today everyone's tune had kind of changed and they were acting like I was in the wrong. That she is having a lot a problems and that they feel sorry for her that kind of thing. I was in shock I could not belive they were acting like this and not backing me up. I am a very shy and easy going person usually and I am feeling very depressed about all of this. I know when she comes back she will be out to get me and I thought some of them would have my back. Now I feel like I'm on my own. Part of me wants to just quit but I other part says I did the right thing so don't give her what she wants. Anyway did I do the right thing or should I have just kept my mouth shut. Sorry this is so long and thank you for reading this. keya