If you are not sure what her intensions where I suggest your just use the trimmer and trim everything down. I guarentee she will love it. Watch for her response and go from there, if she seems to like it. Ask her if she would like to to shave it completely off. I know that since I have been with my partner, he first trimmed it, now he shaves it completely for me. He gets much better head this way, and I can't keep my mouth off of him. I am sure that you have gotten hair in your mouth before and it is very unpleasant. Now no more worries. Now, I go down on him further and am even able to deep throat him. I would not do that before. Nothing gags me worse than hair in my mouth. Try it! you will both like it!