I understand how u feel, I only just gave my 1st bj a few weeks ago. It started as a the 1st hand job I had ever given but my guy takes a long time to come so I just decided to go for it. I was so nervous...he has been with more people then me & I wanted to be good for him. I had read a few articles & talked with my friends that had more experience & even with my guy befor we were in the situation about what works, what doesn't & just how he likes it. I remembered most of what I had read & disscused..I started licking & kissing the base & shaft then slowly took the tip in my mouth licking all around it. I tried to go deep but it wasn't working he's's kinda big & I have a bad gag reflex, which I lm determined to overcome, because of his size I used used my hand at the base as I licked & sucked the tip. It took a while for him to come, which made me feel like I wasn't good (even though I could hear how much he was enjoyin it) & after he said it was the best bj he even got! I think the most important thing to remember is don't use ur teeth, the 1st time my teeth accidently made contact but I caught myself & didn't cause him any pain. Just do ur homework, take it slow, don't let ur nerves get in the way & I'm sure u'll both be beggin for more!