True2me

Thanks for the replies... to the 19 year old that is considering a c-section, don't. As was stated in a reply, it wasn't just childbirth that created my problem. I loved giving birth to both of my babies. Sorry to paint that neg. picture for you. As to Howard, thanks for your reply. It is wonderful that your wife has a vagina powerhouse, but kegals just aren't getting the results I want. As to the earlier question about sex dysfunction... I am seeing a therapist... both mental and physical. I have endometriosis. I was diagnosted when I was 22. I did not have sex until then... I had always had horrible periods, but the pain with sex tipped my doctor off that something else was going on. I have a pretty body. I have always gotten a second look in public. I am small with large breasts. I have not always disliked my vagina. I love my body and think I look great especially being a mom of two. Yes, my breats sag... yes I have strtch marks... As to "hating" my vagina, I am really unhappy for several reasons. Looks... and functionality. Yes, I know I still have a clit. My husband and I take full advantage of that fact as well as oral, but our intercourse isn't what it once was and we miss it. The producures I spoke of were laser surgeries for the endo and we lost a baby Fall of 06. She was 4 months and her heart stopped. My doctor...at the time... had to do THREE D & Cs to finally get all of her. I ended up losing my uterus anyway because of all the damage. Needless to say, I have a new and wonderful doctor and would love to sue the other one, but it is hard to proove he caused the damage. Yes, my doctor is having me go to therapy to make sure my feelings aren't coming out of that situation. So far, both doctors feel I have definate physical reasons to feel the way I do. Yes, I am sad we lost a baby, but my head is clear and I am a smart girl. I am honest about my feelings, and know I am not "crossing" my emotions with what happened and my vagina now. The bottom line is this... I have two perfect kids, a wonderful and supportive husband, a great doctor that really wants the best for me, and I like my personality as well as my body... But... I don't like the changes to my vagina. I can't get past the looks and on top of that, I don't like that I can't "hold" my husband the way I used to. Really, this all started after my childern were born not becuase of them. I think it is just a combo of all the times I have been stretched to have medical proceedures done. I had forcepts with my first, tore with both of them, and had episiotomies with both. That plus the laser surgeries and the D & Cs and the hysorectomy... poor vagina... no wonder she is all saggy. My labia was torn with both babies so I have long, scarred labia. I did go to the site Mikayla suggested.. thanks. And, yes, they are all pretty, but for me, I don't like mine. I am not sure if I'll ever get past that. I once had a petite, pink vagina. Yes, I know, we all did... right? But now I am brown, strtched, scarred, and loose. Just not happy. I see my therapist tomorrow. She will determine if she recommends surgery to my OBYGN or not. Thanks for your concern.

Big problem. I have had two children and a few proceedures that required going through my vaginia. I am loose and it is embarrissing. I don't have $10,000 for plastic surgery. My doctor is willing to consider vaginia repair, but thinks I have sexual dysfunction and wants me to see a therapist first. I am 36 and sexy, but secretly hate my viginia. It is stretched out and my labia is large. Why should women forfit their tightness just to be a mom? Why doesn't insurance pay for the repair? If I have to do 1 more kegal and find that I am no tighter... I'll scream.