Jen

A good blow job requires a bit of concentration--ie. not biting or nipping at the penis can be accomplished by such a thing. I used to think that I had to be able to take the entire penis in my mouth in order to give a good blow job. Now I know I can give GREAT blow jobs by multi tasking! Sucking on the tip while caressing your partner's balls or going half way down on the penis while stroking the bottom half to the shaft--this is how you can multi task. But--if you want to add some toys into the mix here are a few I suggest: Head Candy- These are gummy candy mouthpieces placed in the "givers" mouth as they give oral pleasure. (This may help with your teeth issue). Tongue Joy - This is a mini oral vibrator that is placed on the tongue. It may take some getting used to, but the results are fabulous! Fukuoku Massage Glove- A vibrating glove? Do you know what this could do to the ordinary hand job? Good stuff here! I hope this helps. Good luck, Jen

When YOU'RE ready! Jen

Do they work? Yes and no. Penis pumps can enlarge a penis temporarily. When the pump's cylinder is placed on the penis and pumping begins a vacuum is created around the penis. This increases blood flow to the penis--which in return will "swell" the penis. But that's it. The penis swells for a bit and then it's back to what you started with. There is the chance of broken blood vessels in the penis and/or blisters on the penis so take that into consideration before you pump! Jen

Yes, it is completely normal! Having a complete hysterectomy means that you've lost the nerve system for your hormones--your ovaries. Without them it is only natural that your sex drive would come to a screeching halt. But you mentioned that you were taking part in HRT; if you are finding that HRT is not working then you need to talk with your doctor. Many women need to experiment with their doctors until they find the HRT level that works for them (remember what works for one does not always work for another). In the mean time talk to your husband. The lack of a sex drive can be extremly frustrating (for both of you); especially when you love your partner and have always been sexually attracted to them before. The tough thing for a partner to understand is why the change, why the lack of interest, why now. Talk to your husband. Good luck Jen

It depends upong what you are looking for. Do you want realistic, or plain? Anal or vaginal? Dual action or not? Vibrating or not? Man on man, man on woman, woman on man, woman on woman? Decisions...DECISIONS! Too Timid does a good job describing each item they carry, but if you find you still need more help--drop me a note! Good luck- Jen

I have a few suggestions. The first would be to try a Spectra gel anal plug. The gel material makes this a more comfortable fit and its smaller size (3 1/4" long, 3/4" wide) means ease for the receiver. You might also want to try Chinese anal beads which come in sizes small, medium and large. The last suggestion would be the Rocket Rider Harness. This harness comes with a slender jelly dildo--which it sounds like you are looking for. I probably don't need to tell you, but always remember plenty of lubrication! Good luck- Jen

You want to start with a toy(s) that compliments your sexual "mood". If crazy sex means to you that you initiate sex rather than your boyfriend, than you probably don't want to build a toybox based on the Ultra Harness 2000 strap on. A better bet would be trying a vibrating bullet. Something like this can be used for clitoral stimulation (let your boyfriend do the work!) or as stimulation on your boyfriend's penis or balls (as you give him a blow job). If you like this than you can move up to a dual stimulator that can be used during intercourse. Bottom line? Start simple and you'll simply loooove the results! Good luck. Jen

Wider is tough. I'm curious why wider is necessary? Can you not feel anything or is it that you want to feel more? You may want to look into using clit stimulators or increase your foreplay. But, if you're sure that what you need is a wider penis than you can look into a Cyberskin transformer. These penis extensions can add length and girth--I'll admit I've never used one though. Good luck. Jen

Anal beads are a wonderful toy to use alone or with your partner. Beads are either made of a hard plastic or a rubber material and are strung together like a necklace (more flexible) or linked with more rubber material (less flexible). Anal beads come in a variety of ball sizes and lengths. Most beginners should start with smaller beads and work up to larger beads--if they so desire. It is important to always use plenty of lubrication when using anal toys so not to tear or rip the rectum. One of the most pleasurable ways to use anal beads is to insert them at the beginning of sexual play. As the "wearer" reaches orgasm the anal beads are slowly removed (never pull quickly!!), thus heightening the orgasm. Try Too Timid's Acrylite beads in small --and remember the lubrication! Good luck Jen

I did some checking around and according to one online medical site : "The precise cause of rectal prolapse is not defined; however, a number of associated abnormalities have been found. As many as 50% of prolapse cases are caused by chronic straining with defecation and constipation." Of course this doesn't answer your question about whether or not anal sex can cause rectal prolapse. I know it might be embarrassing, but your best bet would be to talk to your doctor. Good luck. Jen

Ginger-- I have to say, being able to express what is on our minds is sometimes the best remedy--even if it is to someone we don't even know. It sounds like you've been through a whole lot of ups and a whole lot of downs, but it also sounds like you're stilling trying. Self confidence is the underlying reason we share our sexuality. I know when I am feeling frumpy or ick there is no way that my sexuality is "on". But it's not how I look or what I think people see--it's the attitude that I radiate. I get picked on for my "famous sexy people" list ALL the time. Steven Tyler, Prince, Jon Bon Jovi, Gwen Stefani, Joan Jett....the list goes on.... The reason I get picked on is that many of those people are not hot, or attractive, but they ARE sexy! The ooze sexiness! And all because of their attitude. So good on ya for doing what your doing! Work on the "inside" and before you know it your sexiness is going to bust on through to the outside! Good luck. Jen

Lisa- You're kidding right? I mean this doesn't even really need a response--does it? Maybe it does. 1) Going to the bar and picking up a woman is not easier than masturbating. No man I know can run out to the bar, pick up a woman, and get lucky in the same amount of time it takes to head off to the bathroom for a "break". 2) STDs (sexually transmitted diseases). Not going to pick up one of those playing pocket pool. 3) You're not giving women a very good name if your saying that we're so easy that we're picked up at a bar at the drop of the hat. Jen

Tara- I have two suggestions for you. The first possibility would be the Ultra Harness 2000. This couples strap on has a 7" cock (fun for the receiver) with both vaginal and anal plugs for the giver. The second choice (which I like even more) is the Executive Double Dong which comes with a 7 1/2" cock and either an anal or vaginal plug. The crowning glory? It has a detachable multispeed vibration piece! If you're looking more for something that will tickle the fancy of not only the penis and scrotum but the clitoris and anal area than you may want to look for a stimulator (located under the "couples" section of TooTimid.com). The Lover's Triad, Reckless Rabbit, and the Diving Dolphin are just a few of the possibilities. Good luck- Jen

Good for you! I wish more women felt comfortable with porn--they'd have so many questions answered (not to mention so many feelings aroused!) I was at a friend's house recently and noticed a porn movie laying out by the TV. She was visibly embarrassed and quickly moved to hide it. "We've got the same one," I said with a smile. You could hear her jaw hit the floor...the silence was so deafening. Enjoy-Jen

I don't think you're the only one with a swelled "head" --as far as I can tell! Good for you! Sounds like everyone's having fun.

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