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I am the increasingly proud owner of the "pouty" look, one thing that helped me was the website mentioned above in Mikayla's post and the other was my new partner saying that he loves touching me and going down on me. The new will surely be a fantastic sight for your SO's eyes.

I have recently been the recipient of my first rimming and found it, well not spectacularly enjoyable, but it was more pleasurable than I thought it would be. I am yet to return the favour though, he seems to like it so he can do what he likes

I'm not sure we've been together long enough for him to let me at him with any kind of sharp/cerrated instrument lol.

What a fab idea, our next "rendevous" will call for lube so I'll give it a try.

hehe thanks

I agree, he definitely needs to be less vague. How does he think it makes you feel when he's practically blaming you, try and get him to open up about it.

Thanks for all of the replies, and it is definitely something I'll bring up when we've been together a bit longer. It is trimmed but probably just not as much as I'm used to.

I too had a visual LOL Mikayla, do you mean kind of bouncing the head of his penis from fingertip to fingertip, kind of a sideways thing, or gently gripping and bouncing it up and down gently while it's still soft?

My fairly new partner is a lot hairier than I'm used to, and when giving oral sex we all know that stray hairs can get about. I really want to do a full on blow job for him including taking his balls into my mouth, but the hair is taking some getting used to. Anybody else had this problem, and do you get used to it?

Thanks for the suggestions everyone. I'm seeing him this weekend which is sooner than I had hoped so I'm looking forward to it. The poor thing has been working flat out throughout the week and weekends so I'm thinking something along the lines of a massage. I@ve never given a full on massage before but I'm sure I can find some tips and tricks somewhere.

Thanks guys, it's just I'm taking tentative steps into the relationship but want some fun too. And Howard I didnt mean to imply that it was an idea I wanted to copy, just an idea to get into my head and work with.

Excellent suggestions Howard thank you but it's a little cold for the skirt idea unfortunately lol. I would do the shirt thing too but he's actually a little shorter than I am so I'm not garaunteed the shirt will cover me all hehe. But you've hit the nail on the head about the kind of lines that I'm thinking, just a little something out of the ordinary. We'd meet somewhere in London and eventually make it back to his so I don't mind doing it out and about or when we get back to his.

I can semi-understand what you're going through, not through actual experience, but I have a 50/50 chance of being infertile when I do try to conceive and I have a high risk of miscarriage if and when I do get pregnant. The best answer has already been said, and that is to go and see your Gynaecologist, you've been trying for some time, so it's not like you're rushing into an appointment about fertility.

Sorry, I should have said. We've been sleeping together, but it hasn't been very regular so it's taking a wee while to get the hang of what really turns him on. That's why I'm fishing for ideas, something general but a bit sexy. I'm not quite comfortable with the idea of a dance or a strip or anything like that at the moment, so maybe I@m just looking for a little added extra.

I've just started seeing someone but unfortunately he's very busy at the moment and I won't see him for two or three weeks so I'm wondering about a wee sexy suprise for him when we have our next date. Nothing too huge as we're still getting to know each other so don't want to scare him off lol. I was just wondering if you guys have any suggestions I may not have thought of. Or you've done something that worked really well in a similar situation that I may be able to poach of ou and use/adapt.

Well I did my best to relax, but didn't quite get the whole way there, but there was improvement. The problem is I won't be seeing him for 2-3 weeks now, talk about timing

I am again in agreement with what everyone else has said, when you're ready to sleep with someone whether you know three facts or three hundred facts about sex you'll know when that time comes. You'll all of a sudden find yourself in the right situation with the right person, and a lot will come naturally to you. The main thing to do is not to rush yourself, and don't let anybody rush you, waiting until you're ready will be ultimately more satisfying sexually and emotionally.

Indeed it is, thank you very much.

Thanks Ginger I know that part of the problem is not saying what I like, but it's the noise in my head that's stopping me. I don't want to be on a downward slope to vaginismus (or however you spell it), I love being intimate with him but I'm so concerned about the other things that I haven't opened my mouth to speak (yet).

I have been single for a VERY long time, and have not slept with someone in several years. I've just started seeing a guy and my body is steadily getting used to the physical act itself as it hurts a bit at the moment (apparently my coochy is built a bit small) so I'm giving that time, I just can't shut my head up. Worrying about my body and worrying that I won't orgasm (I haven't done so yet with this guy) isn't helping with the relaxation and therefore the enjoyment of the sex. I'm also trying to work up courage to give the right coaxing to what I like and want him to open up to do the same, but it's finding the right way to put it. How can I shut my head up and relax, and focus on the important things while I'm sleeping with my partner. All tips, tricks and acts of smacking some sense into me welcome.

I get plenty of weird dreams, but unfortunately they're not fun and rarely sexual. They're just plain disturbing lol.

Hi everybody I stumbled across the forum today and have had a good old read. It nice to find a place where sex and relationships can be talked about with other sensible, straight forward people.

I've just stumbled across this website, and this thread, and I have to say there are some fantastic tips in here. I have recently started seeing someone and I haven't had the chance to give him a full blow job yet, so I'll definitely be using a few of these tricks next time.