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  2. Back in the Saddle Again

    in Serious Discussions

    Posted

    37 minutes ago, marka09 said:

    Very happy for both you and your wife!!  A good news story!

    Thanks very much Marka.   It certainly is good news, lucky circumstance, and completely unexpected.  It's like when we first got together because we now have to get used to one another again.  Strangely, I got so used to masturbating that I now have to re-learn the feelings and rhythms of her pussy again.  

    The good thing is that practice makes perfect!

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  7. Back in the Saddle Again

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    21 hours ago, tiger48 said:

    Happy for you both. I have a similar situation, but she's 80 now and unable to even if she wanted (which she doesn't). Colosomy bag and both rectal and vaginal surgeries. So, I'm still stuck with masturbating.

    Thanks Tiger.  Here's to you and happy masturbating. 

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  8. Back in the Saddle Again

    in Serious Discussions

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    I've posted before that my wife has not been able to become aroused for many years.  It was something that happened slowly as she wanted sex less and less.  And, on the occasions we did have sex she would "turn off' in the middle and ask me to please finish.  She has had some medical issues so I was pretty much resigned to masturbation as my only release.  My wife was also resigned to no sex and feeling guilty about it.  But we made it work, though difficult at times, and lived the best lives we could.

    Recently, we took and extended trip to visit her family and I came back a couple of weeks before she did.  The day after she returned we went for a swim in the pool and after a  bit she playfully pulled down my suit.  This wasn't like her as she is usually a little concerned if a neighbor see so I decided to call her bluff and took it completely off.  Then I pulled down the bottoms of her suit and to my surprise she took them off!  Then she told me she had a nice surprise.

    My wife got me hard and started pulling me to rub the head on her pussy and get me inside.  I couldn't believe it, she was horny and wanted sex!  She told me that after I had left she started looking at porn sites, reading sexy stories, and sexual desire started returning.  We decided to get dressed and head up to the bedroom where I had my cock buried in pussy for the first time in about 27 years!  We went for about an hour and she was wet, wild and insatiable.

    My wife (and the rest of the family) has had problems with her mother for many years because her mother is a real drama queen that is very controlling.   For my wife this really hit a peak when her father died and she wouldn't speak to her mother for a number of years.  Her mother is still alive but now in a senior care facility and starting to do poorly.  My wife said that on this trip she was finally able to let go of her negative feelings and essentially cut loose from all her mother's bullshit. 

    It seems pretty clear that some deep-seated mental aspects played a role in my wife's sexual problem.  But boy is she trying to make up for lost time now and I'm loving it!  So for the others here that are in the same situation, there is a chance things can get better.  It might be difficult but finding the root cause of the problem is the key to fixing the problem.  Don't give up.

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  11. How many orgasms per day are OK? How many would be too much?

    in Marriage and Committed Relationships

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    Katie Did It is correct, it varies.  I recently came back from a long trip where I had very few orgasms and didn't really feel like cumming much during that time.  But after I got home I was doing two or three per day for a while and it felt great!  Then the desire decreased a bit about 4 - 5 per week (so there were a couple days off while the body recovered). 

    Just listen to your body; it will tell you how many is OK.

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  20. Delay spray / lasting longer

    in Ask A "Sexpert"

    Posted

    19 hours ago, Dmbfan76 said:

    thanks Cirrus20 - I am also curious if you ever tried or use regularly the desensitizing sprays/cream?

    No I've never tried them.  I hope you find something that  works.  In the meantime, just be sure to give your  wife lots of oral.

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  22. Delay spray / lasting longer

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    One suggestion is to make sure you're cumming frequently enough so you don't build up too much desire. 

    It takes time but training yourself using the stop/start technique can work.  Start off masturbating solo and dedicate two or three sessions per week to the exercise.  Stroke until you start feeling the build up and stop before reaching the point of no return.  Start again oce you've regained control.  Do this at least four times before letting yourself cum.  With time, start going longer and eventually bring your wife in to help.  And between practice sessions be sure to have sex with your wife so you aren't missing her pussy.

    It might take a month or two but it can work.

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