[How Did You Meet Your So?]

My dh and I are high school sweethearts. We started dating when I was a freshman and he a junior and just couldn't get enough of each other. We got married almost 9 years ago a year after I graduated and now have 3 beautiful kids together.

[Unusual Ways To Masturbate]

I started when I was fairly young too, around 6 or so, but I didn't know that's what I was doing. I just used to rub against my sheets. During my pre-teen years, I found my hands.

[Ways To Hold Off A Period]

Awesome, thanks!

[How To Help My Husband]

You've got a few questions going on here....first, if you want to have a G-spot orgasm the best way (for most women) is to use fingers (a partners) and a bullet for clitoral stim. See my article on the subject:

How To Have A G-Spot O

Now, you also mention that your man is ejaculating too quickly. HOney, this is very common. FIrst, I suggest that you try to have as many orgasms and a G-spot orgasm BEFORE intercourse. This will reduce some of the frustration as well as relieve the pressure to have that orgasm during sex - it will also switch up your routine. Next, try a cock ring. A simple, basic cock ring, when used correctly, can definitely add some time to your sex session. Try these, 3 sizes for the perfect fit:

Magnum Cock Rings

If you do not know the proper way to use a cock ring, PLEASE ask! I would be happy to tell you.

He also can masturbate and ejaculate BEFORE sex - this usually makes most men last longer, you can try the start/stop method - which is very effective. You start having sex, when he feels the build'up he STOPS - then he waits a few and starts again, over and over.

I think that you should switch things up, try to make it more fun, go for the G (that is fun) and try to incorporate some un-routine like things, perhaps a toy or two! Sex is adult playtime - start playing!

Thanks Mikayla. BTW, I love your name--it's the same as my youngest's. I placed my first order with TT and it should be here tomorrow or the next day--I'm so excited! I did order a g-spot vibe and a cock ring so I'm hoping my dh will be open to using them at some point.

A ball spreader may also help and there was a spray product that I bought many years ago which somewhat de-sensitizes the penis. I believe it was called Prolong or Extend or something similar. One spray on the head about 10 or so minutes before sex and he will last at least a bit longer. I sure noticed a difference.

I meant to buy some of that spray but I think I forgot! Do they carry anything like that at drugstores or Walmart?

If he will take his dick and lay it on the toilet seat and slam it a few times it will be numb and it won't cost anything Just kidding

I don't think he'll want to be near me after that!

There are many techniques to 'slow down' a fellow...many of them kinda annoying..like 'start-stop' (sure doesn't help the female to get into a groove when HE stops!), the 'squeeze' technique (he or you squeeze the base of his cock when he feels like he is going to cum...oh yea, THAT feels good....this one is essentially what a cock ring does) and the 'tug 'em down' technique (where you or he tugs his balls down)...then there is the de-sensitizing gels...gad, who wants to be NUMB during sex????

One thing that many guys over look is that a major contributor of early ejaculation is that they are tensing their PC muscle (yup, the same one you do Kegels with) during foreplay and intercourse...when the PC is very tight, it kind of 'primes the pump' if you will....so teach him how to super-relax his PC whilst fucking....this is easier to do if he is on the bottom, because when he is on top and thrusting, it tends to activate the PC...it takes practice...but when he can do this, he will be able to last longer in any position. Another good way to practice is while you are giving oral or a hand job.

The other two big contributors to fast ejaculation are 'spectatoring' (being overly conscious of your own performance) and far too great a focus on your lover and not enough on yourself (I know this sounds backwards, but it is true).

The really really bottom line in ED, in my opinion is anxiety...most guys do not realize how much anxiety they are holding during sex...anxiety about performance, about coming too soon, about being pleasing enough to your woman, about moving too fast or too slow, etc....that anxiety? you guessed it, it tends to tense up the PC....so reeellllaaaaxxxx.

You can hep him by slowing waaaayyyy down in your foreplay; he should lie back and receive from you long, slow teasing...not just of his boy-parts, but all parts, including a nice massage, tickles, kisses, and rubs...feathers and nice smelling balms...the key to the exercises is to intensify the quality and level of sexual stimulation for him...I know, this sounds backwards too, but it works! As you force him to focus on his own pleasure, (most couples focus almost entirely on HER pleasure and arousal, due to the myths of slow or problematic female arousal) he gains tolerance for higher levels of sexual stimulation, heightening his orgasm threshold.

Besides his gaining better control, you both get the added fun of more extended play....sigh.

Yeah, the start/stop thing doesn't sound like fun at all. I'd probably deck him! Do you have any suggestions on how I can help him find his PC muscle and work on that? As far as focusing on me, that's very true. He does tend to focus a lot on me (which I'm not complaining about lol), so maybe I should bring that up. How on earth do you say "honey, please yourself and stop focusing on my pleasure?"

I like the idea of extended foreplay, but it's virtually impossible with his schedule. Perhaps on our date on 5/3 we'll be able to do this little experiment. Although won't it make him come faster at first?

[How To Help My Husband]

My dh is a great lover, very into pleasing me but we have a small problem that's become frustrating for me. We have fallen into a rut where our sex life is very predictable--I know what's going to happen when. It's okay I guess, I mean it works and why mess with a good thing right?

But, as of late, I've wanted to spice things up a bit and in particular, I want to try and find my g-spot. I even placed my first order with TooTimid yesterday and I'm really excited about it--I only hope dh is too (he doesn't know about it yet) . Anyway, I've never had a vaginal orgasm (isn't that the same thing as a G-spot O?) and I've heard they're extremely intense! The positions that I have already loved that happen to be great for g-spot stimulation unfortunately, don't work for my husband. He just can't last very long, even with a condom. The only way I can O before he does during sex is if I'm on top. It's fine I guess but it can get a little boring sometimes.

So my question is, I'd love to continue with my g-spot quest and would love to be able to enjoy my favorite positions like doggy style a little longer! Any tips on getting him to last longer? Thanks!

[Ways To Hold Off A Period]

So glad I found this thread. I have 3 kids and DH and I rarely get any time alone, aside from quickies before the kids interrupt. We finally have a chance to have a real "date" on May 3, when the kids will be gone all day for about 5 hours! However, if my calculations are correct, I should be right smack in the middle of AF that day. I really hope not, but just in case, I might do what you did and get the Instead cup. I've been looking at it before anyway, so now's as good a time as any to try it. Do you mind telling me how much it was?

Glad you had a great night! It sounds wonderful!